2 yo social/emotional development

[ToddlerToo]

Wondering if my 2 yo (2y+4mos) is average or a bit mature socially for her age. She has an older brother who didn’t do some of the things shes doing now (in fact he is 6 and his teachers have labelled him a bit behind emotionally/socially). So I’m wondering about some of DD’s behaviours:

• She says sorry for bumping into people, asks others to say sorry, for example I was reading to her before bed tonight and we were sat on the floor, I picked her up and her foot got stuck on a book and it sort of hurt, she said “Mummy, say sorry, that hurt me”, says “pardon me” after a burp, etc. (And we’re not especially polite people so I reckon she’s picked this up at nursery, it’s not compulsory in our home!)
• If she spills on the table (even small splashes of yoghurt or milk) she asks for a towel to wipe it and also wipes her hands and face. She will then put the towel in the laundry hamper after the meal
• She loves to make jokes, for example, she will hold up a banana and say, “mummy, look it’s a tomato. Just kidding!”
• She’s quite observant of relationships, knows all of the children at her nursery and can tell all about who has which loves, who cried and for what reason, etc.

is this all typical for a 2 yo (not quite 2.5)?

I could’ve written this about DS, who has just turned 2.

He says thank you if you give him something, night night, goodbye, please, gets tissues to wipe his nose or if he sneezes, puts on his own shoes… I swear DD didn’t do any of that at his age! She’s 6 now and very sociable.

Think it’s a second child thing.

Thank you. Yes I reckon we do spend more time talking about manners, etc. with our 6 yo. Though there’s also something about how observant DD is with social things, even if we’re coming home she notices which neighbours cars are out or not, it’s quite surprising.

but also quite reassuring to know that it doesn’t seem too extraordinary, I wonder sometimes if DS is a bit behind (pandemic toddler) - he was in nursery 2 days/week during the pandemic but obviously much less social interaction than DD gets.

My first at 2 was very similar, assumed was the average! Very good at getting a tea towel to clean up a spill etc, if only that lasted forever!

One DC 2yr 2mths does all these so assuming it's normal? (Altho who knows what normal is!)

Thank you for the replies, I reckon it is a second child thing, or my DS was just a bit less social.

You / your other DC are probably role modelling a lot more. At least that is what I think for my DC who is the same age with an older sibling.

For example, could recite 3/4 nursery thymes at 20months - but would have heard nursery rhymes from when they were in the womb.... where as older DC would have only heard a few up until they were 1 or so.