OMG- the baby dream- feeling so weird

[WiseFinch]

I am up at the crack of dawn having had broken sleep all night because of a fictitious baby made up by my subconscious… No joke. I need to write this down somewhere because this was so vivid.! I miss this non existent baby and I’m heartbroken this morning.

I don’t have kids yet but I am broody, getting pregnant now would not be a total disaster but it wouldn’t be the right timing with work and living arrangements. Last night I dreamt I didn’t know I was pregnant and I suddenly gave birth to a beautiful little girl. Dreamt about the labour in detail, it was a simple birth no pain relief, and she was so tiny and beautiful.

I bought her the most gorgeous outfits, I was up all night feeding her (genuinely I woke up through the night then went back to sleep again all night with this continuous dream). I announced her birth to all my friends, took her to my partners work to meet everybody, my mum loved her. I took her to work with me and met all my friends who loved her.

Oh my god. Then I woke up this morning at 5:30am searching for this baby before I realised she wasn’t real. And I am heartbroken!!!

I don’t really know what I want from this thread I just had to write this down. If anyone knows what it means please tell me! Even if it just means I need to stop drinking wine in the evenings 😂

It was a dream… literally
wine gives me vivid dreams. I had one about leprosy that haunts me still…

no woman who has birthed a baby ever described it as
”Dreamt about the labour in detail, it was a simple birth no pain relief”

it does sound very vivid which can be disorienting though. Try and have a calm / easy day.

fwiw I had my children in close to “ideal” circs and still found it incredibly difficult. Yr 1 of a newborn is one of the hardest things I’ve done. Second child was easier but once they hit one things were much improved.
I get being broody but I’d try and hold off until your situation is more stable. Nothing prepares you for parenthood.

It’s also worth considering: do you want a child or a baby? Because it hasn’t panned out brilliantly for my friends who wanted a baby. They really don’t stay small and sleepy and unopinionated balls of bottomless love for very long.
my DH gets told he is a messy smelly daddy daily and I’m told go away I don’t want YOU! Almost as often 😵‍💫

Haha, don’t worry I’m not entirely disillusioned. I work with small children which is why I’m on MN. It was just so weird. Every time I woke up in the night (thanks wine) it was because the baby woke up ! So the dream went on all night. I’ve had these dreams before but never quite as vivid. But I’m certainly not going to get pregnant right now because of it 😂

Baby dreams are odd. From a child to my 20s, I always dreamed about either being male or having male children.

I'm a woman, btw!

Both DC are males and the dreams stopped as soon as no.1 was born.

The joys of hormones!

I have these dreams occasionally even though I've had all my kids, my tubes tied and have no desire to give birth again. It's weird though because in the dream I'm always so happy to be pregnant. I think it must be symbolic of something I'm going through in my waking life and my brain has made the connection to it being a baby.

I hope your dream will come true one day, OP.

Just once I had an incredibly vivid dream that I was pregnant - but even in my dream told myself I couldn’t possibly be pregnant - I was much too old! - and woke myself up. 😂

Oh hopefully you will experience parenthood OP but I do understand the disappointment of a very vivid dream not being reality. My vivid baby dreams are very much the opposite where I have given birth and forgotten to nurture the baby so it dies. It's a relief to wake and find it's not true.Thankfully I have three grown children who are all very much thriving.

I assume that you are certain that you are not unexpectedly pregnant?

Ah OP. These dreams are such a mixed blessing, I’m 60 and still have them. And I still wake up feeling bereft even though there’s no way I’d want another baby now. Hopefully the dream will fade as the day goes on. Mother Nature’s wicked wiles.

Chance would be a fine thing 😂