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I’m not waking up when baby cries how to fix this

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Corncoby · 16/03/2025 05:21

Since giving birth 6 months ago I started doing 3/4 of the night wakkings for milk and all the dummy moments etc. I then started to go very down hill with exhaustion so occasionally we would swap sides and he would do more if I was struggling to much. It got to the point where I wasn’t coping and something was medically wrong. Turns out I was severely anemic and low in lots of vitamins. Prior to finding this out he had started doing 3/4 night wakings and letting me sleep so I could mange the whole day alone with a baby. When baby cried i wouldn’t wake up. Now I’ve had an iron transfusion and my vitamins are all under control which is great. I’m just not waking up for my baby I’m in such a deep sleep husband is still ending up doing the nights. I’ve tried to wake up but I’m just not and I’m finding it quite sad that I don’t wake for my baby crying. I’ve told my husband to wake me up when he cries so that maybe I get used to being woken up but he dosnt really do that as he’s used to it now and would rather I sleep. I’m getting quite distressed by it as I feel awful that I don’t respond to my baby. It also means i can’t nap when baby naps as I’m home alone and worried I won’t wake up.

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autisticbookworm · 16/03/2025 05:32

You need to rest so your body can recover. I’d leave things as they are so you can cover the day. Try to get plenty of fresh air, exercise, eat well and drink lots of water to aid your recovery and enjoy the days with the baby. If it becomes too much for your dh he can let you know.

DrummingMousWife · 16/03/2025 05:35

I said yabu because you are beating yourself up unnecessarily. Your body is telling you it needs rest and you are being supported by your dh - which is great. Don’t view this as a failing, you have grown a tiny human being and your body is in recovery mode. You are doing great mummy, you just need to listen to your body and get rest right now.

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