Interfering with favours...

[AuntMatilda]

I'm out for most of today.

Asked my mum to drop into my house to let my dog out/spend bit of time so dog isn't alone all day.

Last night brother rings. I told him about today just in general conversation.
He offered to come with my mum so that dog also gets a walk (my dog is a large working breed and although my mums very fit and well she's still quite elderly, so I'd never ask that she walks dog).

Ring mum today. She apparently spoke to brother and told him to not bother coming. Dog 'doesn't need a walk', it's unnecessary and not to bother.

I had a bit of an issue with this and told her as such and now I feel a bit guilty 😕

Other info that may be relevant,

I very very seldom ask mum to help with the dog. She's 'sat' her for a couple of hours once in the last year when my usual dog sitter wasn't available, I don't usually ask anything of family at all, it's rare that I can't facilitate dog needs myself.

I didn't ask brother to walk dog because we're not close although we get along fine, just wouldn't have occurred to me.

I've walked dog before going out and will when I'm back so mum's right, it isn't 'necessary ' for brother to do it, but he'd offered. Was happy to.

Am I wrong for being slightly irritated at mum telling him not to?

This seems important. Let’s discuss it at length.

Sorry forgot to add,we all live within a few mins walk of one another. Not asking anyone to go hugely out of their way.

This is a discussion forum. Let's let people use it.

I'm guessing she has the keys and was expecting to spend a bit of time with the dog. If your brother walks the dog either she's hanging around at your house doing nothing or goes on a walk she may not be up for or opens up so your brother can get the dog for a walk and has to lock up afterwards or arrange to meet up with your brother to give the keys and meet up again to get them back afterwards. What I'm getting it is that what was a simple arrangement becomes more complicated. She may have planned how she was going to use the time at your house to suit her.

They live about a minute from one another and sorry, should've said in the OP but mum had already offered to walk the dog anyway, so was fine to walk with him. Her reason was just to not put him out.

I don't let mum walk the dog just because I'm risk adverse but she didn't mind walking the dog with brother just didn't want him to put himself out because it wasn't necessary to walk the dog.

Absolutely! A good discussion is a wonderful thing.

I'm on your side @AuntMatilda I'd feel irritated too if I were you.

Mine get 3 walks a day if we’re not working (Dh on shifts so they’re never left more than a few hours except for 3 days a month when they have a dog walker before anyone tells me it’s awful to work and have dogs) so I’d be really annoyed that she’d stopped him walking the dog. Is she now pissed off at being told you aren’t happy?

No, she wasn't. She was surprised! As she'd decided it wasn't necessary and didn't expect me to be bothered.

Similarly, I am on my own but I WFH four days a week, so the three days I am off dog typically gets a long run and a shorter walk, also comes to the pub with me a couple of times a week-she's very rarely left alone for more than an hour or so (if I go to the supermarket or whatever). Days I work late I run with dog in morning and walk her at lunchtime, my earlier shifts I walk her before, lunchtime and after. If I am ever out for longer I get dog sitters/walkers but none available today.

This was a real 'one off'.

Thank you for those who've said I wasn't unreasonable. Mum also picked me up from the train station when I got back, we're fine now-I just felt a bit guilty for expressing that I wasn't happy at her taking the decision, we have a good relationship.