50th birthday

[Tdp123]

How would you feel if your DH went away on holiday for a week with your children over your 50th birthday, leaving you home alone (couldn't get the time off work)?

I don't think that's the consensus at all. Some people are saying they'd quite like it, but as you clearly wouldn't, it's not OK unless there's a good reason for it.

I think it is a really big deal and I would instigate divorce as a result.

It doesn’t matter what a bunch of complete strangers think, it’s what you think that matters. Depending on when the holiday is and who you booked it with you could change the dates of the holiday for an admin fee (usually around £50.00 per person plus the price difference). If you are upset say now, otherwise the resentment will just build up into a huge argument months down the line.

@Tdp123 what would YOU like to happen for your 50th birthday?
That's the most important thing here.
What YOU want.
Not a bunch of random strangers.
Talk to your husband and tell him exactly how much this has upset you.

If this thread leads you to also dismiss your own birthday and your feelings then it's done you a disservice.

Many MNers love to cool girl about adult birthdays, but you don't have to take a consensus from a bunch of randoms on here. Do any of the posts reflect how you actually feel about what your DH has done?

It depends how you feel about birthdays. My 40th was so horrible due to hormones and anxiety, I've rejected birthdays since.

But you might care deeply and this might be very upsetting for you.

I hope that if you do care about your birthday you can tell your DH.