hey. so a little backstory ive been with my partner now 11 years we have 3 children 2 who are autisic one diagnosed one nearly diagnosed but very high demanding boys. my eldest is incredible and helps out where she can but she is only 10. the issue is partner. in the 11 years ive been cheated on 4 times once in an actual relationship with someone else and i stupidly took him back( i was 6 months ppm and only 19 he was my only support) the other 4 times have been online with various ladies on the internet. he also doesnt help at all with the kids night feeds kick offs appointments taking them out even paying for anything for the kids have always been myself christmas birthdays. ive never had mothers day anniversary birthday xmas presents from him. its always been me with the effort. im now at a point that he does nothing for the kids he does nothing around the house and asking him to do anything takes days sometimes weeks. he is now off sick due to shoulder surgery but also he is having some isssues in his job and he hasnt been pulling his weight so he is in trouble there. i work part time with children and love my job but im also full time career for my two boys to and juggling the house work kids and now looking after him im at my wits end. im having to work extra to find the money for him being off sick and he just wants to spend money on stupid stuff (he spent £40 on tattoos yesterday yes a small amount but i have nothing to my name it is all tied up in bills). i have never felt more lonely or low ever i have no where else to go no family no one i can stay with or get support ive been trying to get a council house now for 2 years but the demand is so high ive not got a chance. what would you do he plays this game where he will help when i have a breakdown or kick off massively and then be okay for 1 2 days and then goes back to doing nothing. all he does is play games on his computer or phone. i cant kick him out as i cant afford the house im in on my own. we split bills he pays rent and gas and i pay everything else. im just at a loss on what to do i cant go to social family support as ive recently had an issue with a bruise on my sons ear due to him throwing himself at the tv unit and he caught his ear but social got involved due to where it was we been signed off and cause closed but im now terrified in getting that kind of help. i do my best but i feel like im failing at every corner im coming home from work to a messy house im not sleeping due to my boys having really bad sleep issues and im getting no breaks i cant even go to the toilet without taking the boys with me where as right now as im writing this he is upstairs on his game and i cant just walk out or leave the kids with him as he gets so distracted on his phone that the kids go crazy and climb on everything jump off and hurt themselve. any adivce would be amazing and im sorry this is so long.