I'm a FTM a 5mo girl, and I'm just really struggling with socialising with other mums.
I'm part of an antenatal group and I genuinely really get on with all the other mums, see a few of them regularly for classes throughout the week and always have a good natter and catchup.
We have a group chat and I've offered to host playdates twice. First time 4 people said they'd come. 2 people were sick (I know that's true not an excuse) one had a change of plan, so only 1 person turned up. I was upset at the time but then not too bothered because the reasons they didn't come were legit and they let me know in advance. The next week I once again offered, one person replied and they did come round. Both times had a nice time, but obviously it would be nice if more people even responded, especially as in person they all seem keen - I'm aware that mums with babies have lots of other things going on too, just frustrating that there's zero response.
Just in conversation I've heard that some of the other mums have been meeting up either for playdates or for coffee. Again I'm totally aware that just being in a group doesn't get me an automatic invite, but I was just a bit disappointed that I've never been asked really especially as I've always been keen to go to stuff.
All this to say - how should I be going around organising things? Messaging people individually, or just carry on going to classes and accept that I'm just not going to see people outside of preorganised classes?
I just struggle so much to know what I should be doing, and it's really getting me down if I'm honest.