I am at my wits end with ex partner. We have two children in primary and he barely sees them. He tells me constantly he misses them and he loves them. But then he chooses to constantly be abroad with work and then when he isn’t at work lies he is and I’ll find out he has been on holiday or just doing whatever he pleases like he has no responsibilities in the world.
6 months ago I drew up a schedule of every other weekend and if he can be around absolutely great but the majority of the year he has now told me he is “unavailable for childcare”. He will tell the children he is back on X date and then suddenly cancel as he basically gets a better offer, either with his work addiction or with his girlfriend abroad. His priorities seem to be work, American girlfriend and then his kids.
I know I can’t make someone parent but it’s absolutely heartbreaking for the children. I really do 95% of parenting alone and I feel like a tired stressed out mum. He has already told me he is unavailable for the school holidays until Christmas! He won’t offer a childcare solution so it will be me yet again juggling all the arrangements for children. I feel so alone in parenting and it’s so bloody hard.
I think I just needed to vent.