Worst advice you've seen on a thread?

[PrincessAnne5Eva]

Lighthearted!

Ok so I've seen some corkers in the years I've been posting/lurking on MN. What's the worst advice you've ever seen on a thread? Here are a few (in no particular order):

Years ago, someone telling the OP to do all the housework and not give her four teenage children any simple chores to do because she was a single parent and they "needed to have a childhood" so couldn't possibly do the dishwasher or similar.

Someone on a pension thread telling the OP that her house was her pension, except she was renting and they hadn't read the OP properly.

Someone telling an OP without a car that going on holiday to the arse end of the Highlands to a tiny village was completely doable by public transport and encouraging her to go up there somehow and effectively get stranded in a village with no bus service or taxi companies.

Luckily on these sort of threads I also see a lot of people calling bullshit on the bad advice but it still makes me laugh and hope to God that the OP is sensible enough to listen to the majority (they usually are).

Literally never seen that

About once a week I see someone say it’s normal for babies to move less at the end of a pregnancy because they run out of room/that moving much more than usual is OK.

If you're struggling for money and own a mortgaged house, simply rent it out and move to a cheaper rented one.

You beat me to it ha ha. Especially bad in an abusive relationship situation when op has been separated from friends and family.

An OP was complaining about their neighbours’ children constantly kicking balls into their garden and knocking on their door to retrieve their ball. A regular poster suggested that she bought some wood and attached slats to her fence to make a ladder for them to climb over for easier access to her garden. I’m still WTF over that one.

To just move house if you have noisy neighbours or are in a bad relationship. It's all so easy and costs nothing takes no time at all to do and of course they'll be an abundance of housing to choose from.

This has to be up there. I have seen people still suggest it when OP’s partner is clearly abusive.

Take your employer to a tribunal for constructive dismissal when you've been there 2 hours and you don't like the boss.

I’ve seen the opposite where younger mums get preemptively defensive and presume they’re being judged by older mums. Live and let live eh?

I have one lady got told she was stupid having a baby so young she was 40s and her child was in her 20s.
She got qouted with someone saying said she couldn't think of anything worse than having a child so young.
And why didn't she choose adoption.
Lady replied with i cant think of anything worse having a baby at 46.
Yet she was bashed on the thread for saying it.

Have a birth control ‘accident’

Telling OP to post dog shit through the neighbours letter box. That’ll diffuse any issues won’t it

It was years ago now but I recall one where a poster was complaining about severe abdominal pain and shoulder pain and wondered if she should go to A&E. Cue posters saying she represented everything that was wrong with the Great british Public and would be wasting time and NHS resources.

She had an ectopic pregnancy and internal bleeding. Thankfully as i recall, someone on the thread recognised the symptoms and was vociferous about her getting help and she survived.

@ImNotShpanishImEgyptshun and start your own business at the same time!

And the part where most "older Mums" are asking for advice on divorce?

This!
”Don’t live in a flat or terraced house if you don’t like noise.”
Like detached houses are cheap as chips.

I posted about looking for ideas of names to text my new bf as he always called me 'sweetheart' in his.
I got loads of replies saying he obviously couldn't remember my name and to LTB, etc...
We're still together over 3 years later, and he still calls me sweetheart 😊

not so much advice but more peoples lack of depth of knowledge when they try to politically debate eg the latest of trump and elon as an example, some threads start off with the debate topic then when someone puts a detailed analysis of eg how trump could legally try to acquire green land and rather than academically debating or rebutting the points instead they either say its a daft idea because eg trump has not a clue.

its like what the hell people , why not do research and then debate why the need to think name calling etc is suddenly going to win the debate ?

My husband calls me goose lol.
I think its sweet to have nick names.

Oh, the virtue signalling about homeless people and how generous and non-judgmental the posters would be.

It's a while ago now but I remember someone posted, "I am worried because I think a homeless man is sleeping in my shed," and posters were queuing up to recreate the Four Yorkshiremen sketch in reverse.

"I'd take him hot drinks and a blanket."
"I'd take him home-cooked meals three times a day."
"I'd offer him a hot bath and give him some of DH's clothes."
"I'd let him stay in my spare room."

In real life they'd be clutching their pearls and logging it with 101.

Me neither! I saw a post the other day asking about people’s immediate social circle and age of mothers. Most people just answered the question, but someone kicked off that anyone over 30 having a baby was selfish. There some horrible posts berating women having children in their 40s, it was pretty sickening.

I see this a lot. Posters will read the thread, totally disregard what they’ve read, and instead hone in on something that is at total odds with the spirit of the thread. Especially if it’s to do with men, and hell hath no fury if you in any way defend or gently suggest that the male species aren’t the devil. You get told you’re a handmaiden or internal misogynist.

So much of the advice given on MN is devoid of any understanding of the nuances of real life, which is odd, as we are all living a real life.

Husband being a bit lazy with the housework would in any logical mind warrant a conversation. On MN, it equals, "Get your ducks in a row, LTB, and kick him out." Apparently, ownership of said house doesn’t make an iota of difference, and apparently alternative housing is so easy to get. You can just leave or kick somebody out on a whim!

For me it's telling people whose children are behaving appallingly that they just need to empathise with them more. Or get them assessed for ND, despite having no symptoms of ND.

“I’ve gone off/decided to leave my (joint home-owning) husband.”
”Throw him out and change the locks.”