Therapy

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Hallo

I have a situation with my psychotherapist which is really playing on my mind and I am hoping to get some clarity for myself. I have been seeing her for four years now and have seen some real transformation. I know that there are things that I still need to discuss with her but I don't feel safe enough to do so at the moment. I have definitely had the experience recently of feeling very dismissed by her. We have discussed how our relationship has mirrored the one I had with my primary caregiver when I was a child, but I am finding it quite hard to get past some of the things she has said.

I know that she feels that I am right on the cusp of some sort of breakthrough and I am checking myself to see if I am running away. But I really feel that things are forced at the moment and not emerging naturally and am feeling very resistant.

I don't know if that makes any sense at all, but I'd be really grateful for anyones thoughts.

Are you able to talk to her about what you have mentioned? She may not have realised the impact of things that have been said, may have made an error (they are human) or any number of explanations as to why you are feeling resistant and you and here have an established relationship where you would hopefully be able to unpick it together

All the above is with the caveat if you don’t feel safe do not feel obliged to do anything you don’t want to - resistance is one thing and can be worked through, lack of safety is another

Thanks yes, I have and for one of the things she said, she apologised and that was helpful. That's very validating re safety, I will think about that more.