I think I'll probably be a lone wolf for life...

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I saw a similar post earlier today and had a similar conversation with my DH yesterday.

At 40 I've realised that I genuinely will never have a group of friends, but the older I get the less I care about it. It doesn't help that I've lived in partial isolation for the past 13 years, but a) I find friendships complicated and b) I prefer using my time on my own than trying to make new friends

Personally I'd think of a lone wolf as someone without a partner or close friends but you have a DH?

But he's the only person I fully like in the whole world. I seem incapable of maintaining friendships

You're not a lone wolf without a partner. I'm a lone wolf. Didn't meet my other half till I was 40. He died of cancer after 14 wonderful years together. I'm alone again now and always will be. I was destined to be alone.

You have a partner. By definition, you are not a lone wolf!

OP I'd get your title reworded or your thread will just be full of people telling you you can't be a lone wolf as you have a husband.
Which is true😀

You're probably best starting a new thread, OP. People are going to keep picking you up on your choice of language (lone wolf) rather than actually engage with your post about not having a group of friends.

I'm the same as you. Sometimes I get pangs of sadness or jealousy but actually if I'm honest with myself, I like the idea of friends more than the reality of friendships. I find them confusing and stressful, and with disabled DC and being ND myself I just don't have the time or the bandwidth for intense friendships. I have a couple of people I grab coffee with a few times a year and send texts maybe every month or so and that's a level that I can manage.

When you say you’ve lived in partial isolation for 13 years, what do you mean? Do you have a health condition that means you’re housebound or are you a Crofter on a remote island?

Come back and do the thread when you're really alone.

Agree with everyone else you're not a Lone Wolf. Be thankful you have a happy and healthy relationship.

You're not incapable. You've already given three reasons :
-You don't care
-You find friendships complicated
-You prefer spending time alone.
None of these indicate that you're incapable of friendships, more that you just don't want them.

That's fine though if friendships don't really matter to you?

I'd describe myself as a satellite lone wolf as I have good friendships but don't live near them :)

I moved here for my mother's final years but she died recently so I can think about what comes next. Friendly with some local people but it's not the same as old friendships.

Agree I thought the op was single when I read the title

I think you're confusing introversion with isolation.