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I don't trust my own judgement....on anything

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CryptoWhiptoe · 09/03/2025 07:49

This might be a slightly muddled post but I've suddenly realised that I don't trust my own judgement or knowledge anymore. I'm a reasonably intelligent, aware individual who holds a deceny job and can work things out....but when I want to do anything now I feel I have to look it up / check up / read how others do it etc. I've realised I do it A LOT and it's making me feel so....lost...confused....like I don't know anything. It's really odd - anyone else have this?

Silly things like, I put Google maps on even when I know where I'm going, I spend ages reading reviews for things to buy, I look up exercise routines even though I have some that I know work. And then repeatedly looking up things I have already looked up....what clothes suit my body shape, what healthy meals I can cook, how best to remove limescale.

I feel like it's making me less sure if myself and messing with my self confidence and I am looking for reassurance from my husband more and more. I also feel like I'm using other people / internet to try to figure out the bigger questions....why am I feeling low, how do I feel better, what will I enjoy doing etc?? Which is ridiculous as obviously only I can answer those more personal qus. I google things on mumsnet like 'why am I feeling so low' etx.

Anyone had this before and any tips to get back to trusting myself?

OP posts:
DustyLee123 · 09/03/2025 08:16

Are you peri menopause age?

H0n · 09/03/2025 16:15

Oh I can relate to this. I end up buying nothing at all because I can't work out if I like it or it suits me or whatever.

thrive25 · 09/03/2025 16:55

Sometimes these confidence issues stem from childhood: not being trusted to make your own decisions/intrusive parenting style

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