Fed up and no idea why

[Needtofacereality]

I have so much to be grateful for good job (which I enjoy most the time) good friends, DH who I know loves me.

But I can’t help but focus on all the negatives. We weren’t able to have children, I have left it too late for ivf and it’s not that simple for us. I feel so guilty my mum keeps dropping saying how happy xyz are with their grandchildren.

I am due in my period so everything seems worse. I keep reminding myself I have things that people would do anything for so why can’t I be happy and just accept it was to meant to be.

How old are you?

That is a bit insensitive of your mum if she knows you are not able to have them.

It doesn't help that you are due a period soon. There is not really much I can say, but do remind yourself that you have a husband who loves you (plenty on here say the opposite!). Also not everyone is happy with kids, they come with their own problems! Hopefully you will get out of your blue funk soon. We all get days like that!

I am late 30s, the mood swings are so extreme before period it will last about a week and then will feel better. Just keep telling myself this won’t last and I am lucky in so many ways. Thanks for replying

My PMT got worse in peri menopause, but perhaps you’re a bit young for that yet. It might be worth trying a Mirena coil as it may very well stop your periods, and the PMT that goes with them

It's not too late for ivf OP...many women try that in their early 40s (if that's a big factor in terms of how you feel).

@Valhalla17 I hope it’s a possibility it would mean a lot to so many people but I am just too big that’s cold hard truth basically I am too fat! My bmi is 32 and needs to be below 30 I am active and eat well but have always weighed heavy I am naturally muscular and I am on the shorter side. Considering using the weight loss injections but the lack of long term research really worries me.

Ah I see OP. But you have time. Perhaps as step one you speak to your GP and see a dietician that can help or get yourself onto slimming world, so you can focus on that over the next say 6mths and then look at the IVF. A BMI of 32 to 30 is possible, it's just prob a few dietary tweaks is all if you've got good muscle mass etc. Spring is almost here lighter evenings so a bit more movement when you can. Take a friend, family member so you keep up the motivation.

Ultimately - Don't count yourself out OP if having a family with change things and if it means a lot to you and your partner.