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Is this a bit passive aggressive?

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cowdozer · 07/03/2025 16:41

Neighbour has chopped down some branches overhanging one of my garden wall and dumped them outside.

Is this a bit passive aggressive? The branches may have been a bit overhanging near where some people park but I would have preferred if if they'd asked instead.

What do you think?

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SargeMimpson · 07/03/2025 16:43

Your neighbour is entitled to cut any branches overhanging their garden but they need only 'offer' them back to you; not dump them without discussion.

So yes, PA

lnks · 07/03/2025 16:44

Sorry, I'm not clear on what you mean. Do you mean your neighbour cut branches off your tree, which where overhanging a wall, and she has then put the branches in your garden?

Ddakji · 07/03/2025 16:44

Your post isn’t very clear but this is your tree, yes? And its branches are overhanging their property?

Yes, ideally they could have asked you to cut it back, but even more ideally is that you should have kept an eye on it and kept it in check in the first place., they shouldn’t have to ask you.

Also, round here you have to pay for a garden waste bin, they might not have one?

cowdozer · 07/03/2025 16:45

They've dumped the branches near where they were cut off from, not in my garden but just outside (still technically my property).

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LittleRedRidingHoody · 07/03/2025 16:47

Ddakji · 07/03/2025 16:44

Your post isn’t very clear but this is your tree, yes? And its branches are overhanging their property?

Yes, ideally they could have asked you to cut it back, but even more ideally is that you should have kept an eye on it and kept it in check in the first place., they shouldn’t have to ask you.

Also, round here you have to pay for a garden waste bin, they might not have one?

Agree with this! My garden is very low maintenance so I don't pay for a garden waste bin. If a neighbours branches overhung enough to annoy me I'd likely do the same - probably nicer to ask first but I think the onus should've been on you to keep it trimmed or discuss with those it affected.

pilates · 07/03/2025 16:49

Yes, not very neighbourly imo.

HoldingThePoisonDown · 07/03/2025 16:49

They’ve saved you a job!
But yes, it’s PA. They could have just asked you to sort it, although you shouldn’t let them overhang into parking bays (?) but if it was overhanging on to your own land then I’d be pissed off and look into them causing damage to your trees in an act of pettiness 😁

AnSolas · 07/03/2025 16:50

Your trees were growing into a public space?
And the NDN had to cut them back?

Nope not passive agressive if they cut and left them near the base of the trees.

desperatedaysareover · 07/03/2025 17:07

we have perfectly friendly and pleasant neighbours - they’ve dropped foliage and branches off our trees back into our garden. So I wonder if that’s what some people think you’re meant to do?

I thought it’s etiquette to offer the cuttings back. I would be worried that in itself would seem PA hahah so I would just dispose of what I cut. Since they are your branches and your responsibility to maintain, I wouldn’t take it as PA. More hassle if they’d said hey, could you sort that overhang out.

Also - some people are deathly afraid to speak to their neighbours!

cowdozer · 07/03/2025 17:29

desperatedaysareover · 07/03/2025 17:07

we have perfectly friendly and pleasant neighbours - they’ve dropped foliage and branches off our trees back into our garden. So I wonder if that’s what some people think you’re meant to do?

I thought it’s etiquette to offer the cuttings back. I would be worried that in itself would seem PA hahah so I would just dispose of what I cut. Since they are your branches and your responsibility to maintain, I wouldn’t take it as PA. More hassle if they’d said hey, could you sort that overhang out.

Also - some people are deathly afraid to speak to their neighbours!

I think this is the case, if it's who I think it is, they are not particularly adept at social skills so I'm not as irked as I could be, I suppose.

I'll take it as one less job for me to do.

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