Is Your Other Half A Good Patient?

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DH is rarely ill but when he’s not well he hates a fuss, which is tough for me as I’m a naturally nurturing person. It doesn’t help that because he’s not unwell very often, I tend to worry about him more if he does come down with something. He’s been suffering from raised blood pressure recently & is waiting to see someone. It is concerning but I don’t ask about it much. He’s brilliant when I’m poorly or DD16.

Anyone out there?

No! A complete baby and it’s very annoying because I am the opposite.

DH is rarely ill but when he’s not well he hates a fuss, which is tough for me as I’m a naturally nurturing person.

I'd say that not want8ng a fuss is being a good patient. It seems a bit silly to want to make a fuss of someone when they're unwell just because it makes you feel better rather than them tbh!

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Agree

You need Angela Banner's Ant and Bee and the Doctor. Bee gets a cold and is Good in Bed; Ant gets red lumps and is Bad in Bed.

Same here. Dh likes to be acknowledged but then left alone.

When he phoned and asked me to come home once, I dropped everything and ran. It was so out of character for him.

The flipside is that I sometimes need to coach him how to look after me, because I want a bit more fussy than he does. He doesn't ignore me when I'm ill, but is likely to treat me the way he likes to be treated.

Yes he's great, doesn't want a fuss and isn't dramatic/doesn't wallow but is sensible about about accepting help and going to the doctor when needed.

I just cater to him on his terms, deliver meds, make sure he has a fresh glass of water, periodically check on him if he is sleeping for a long time. Like your Dh mine is rarely ill and a few months ago had some virus or flu and was off work for a few days which is unheard of. He just slept, a lot, which worried me. He isn't a dressing gown of doom person either. Very matter of fact which is the complete opposite of his personality, he is open, very chatty, good at describing how he is feeling both physically and emotionally.

On the flip side I have a chronic medical condition and he is the sweetest, kindest, nurturing man you could ever meet.

DH is never is and never complains and always goes to work. So when he's really sick same situation as you and vice versa. When I'm unwell, he's a gem, buys me everything I need and tends to me well.

My DH is stoic and doesn't like a fuss. I like to moan a bit and have cups of tea made for me. We both accept this about each other.

If mine is sick or in the dressing gown of doom for more than 48 hours I completely loose patience. Fortunately it's rare.

No. He's a stubborn old git and insists on carrying on instead of resting up.
If he broke his leg in 6 places, he'd insist he was fine and he'd just walk it off.
It's infuriating.