ask your kids who is the boss in your house

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would your kids say that you are the boss? and if not, why not?

I started telling my kids (in a joking context) that I'm the boss. And then I realized that is it true - DH and the kids listen to me and mostly do what I say.

And I'm kinda proud of that, I think it gives my kids a clear structure and shows them what leadership looks like.

but am I wrong to want to be the boss in my own house?

DS would probably say the cats and he wouldn't be wrong 🤣

However aside from that i would hope he would say that there isn't a boss. That DH and I are equals. We are the parents so are in charge but we try to give DS autonomy where it is appropriate and we respect his opinions.

The dog for sure

Honest answer probably DH. He's a SAHD so makes most household related decisions that DS actually sees. I've used up all my mental energy at works usually so quite happy for DH to chose what film we watch or what colour the front door is or where we go on holiday.

When the girls were toddlers we had t shirts, mine said 'senior management' theirs said 'junior management' and DH's said staff.

I must admit that I saw the two of us as a team but he did tend to go along with me I wanted to do something else. The only real exception being holidays, he doesn't do hot places.

My dd and the cat - and it's just the three of us

She has asd and isn't speaking yet but I sense she sees me as the snack provider 😭

The cat the same 🤭

My five year old definitely thinks/knows he's the boss.

DC like to debate this sometimes...DS2 thinks daddy is the boss because he is bigger, but DS1 says I am the boss because I am older.

My DM is the ultimate boss though as she is mummy's mummy.

One of my children thinks my husband is the boss, the other thinks they are in charge.

It's definitely me!

I have no kids so im the boss of my indoor kingdom when im not in my 4 foot goose will take over.
Not joking i own a very large 4foot plushy goose.
Along with a very large 3foot plush dinosaur and sadly a 4 and half foot plush alien.
I should seek help at this point.

No kids - I would ask my cats but they'd laugh in my face 😄

I think DH and I share bossing, but the kids think I’m the boss. Perhaps they just don’t see that I do consult DH on most things, and I have been around more as he worked longer hours throughout their childhoods. As an example for sharing, DH often decides where to go on holidays and I tend to decide when they will be and where we will stay, though DH usually does the bookings.

Mine can't tell me because he is pre-verbal but if he could I am pretty sure he'd tell me he's the boss! It's the attitude that has helped him get to be where he is today despite everything life has thrown at him.

I don’t have to ask them. They would both definitely say me. I’ve always been the boss. Dh, I love him, is a bit of a wilting flower. We both worked abroad when we met and I’m pretty sure he started dating me because I could haggle over taxi fares and order people around in a way he was too scared to attempt. 😂 He’s very good at being the voice of reason and playing good cop, but when shit hits the fan and someone needs to step up when it all kicks off, we all know it’s me. Dh would not argue with that (I mean, bless him, he doesn’t argue at all).

I'm the only parent so it should be me. But I guarantee that son will say daughter is, and daughter will say son is.

they would say themselves

I AM the boss in my home though, so they would obviously say that. Dh is the engine that makes everything work.

Fun sponge answer. Men say their wives/partners are the boss because it absolves them of responsibility. "Sorry, kids- mum says no."

12yo DD said, "Obviously me," and went back to watching Fuller House. I will ask DS when he emerges from his room in search of banana bread.

Yes, this is also true. But I'd still rather be the boss than the minion.

We used to say 'have you asked mummy/daddy already' to check they weren't trying to get approval for something one of us had already said no to. There seemed to be a way they asked that just let you know they had already been turned down.