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Fuming is an understatement

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Nadcat · 05/03/2025 00:13

Need to vent. I’m sat here on holiday at centre parcs with my little one which I booked for his second birthday. I asked my ex partner father if he would be able to take us there as I don’t drive. He usually helps take us places if we have appointments and has dropped me and DS on holiday but with my LO father too. I booked it for me and LO only this time as his father is working and can’t afford the holiday either. Little did I know someone would invite themselves along. My exes father said he was travelling that way to go see relatives anyway so asked how many rooms I had booked. As there was an extra room he decided he was entitled to it. Without paying anything towards the holiday. My ex found it weird me and his father had booked a holiday away together and they are now arguing. I didn’t book it, he came along. Then decided to tell people I asked him to come. Then he’s asking why I didn’t book him activities that me and LO are doing. I said I didn’t know you were coming. He said why would I just take you there and leave. It’s less than an hour and a half away from his house. So then he starts invading everywhere we go and whatever we are doing. Even using our private bathroom and peeing all over the toilet seat. Then complains he doesn’t like it as there is 2 many trees and walking. Which he knew when he dropped us off before. Now he’s asking me to tell him when we will go swimming so he can come with us. I don’t feel comfortable especially at some of the remarks he’s said to me in the past. He says he is not visiting family in the area now and he only said that he might visit them. But decided to just come with us. He is trying to rush us doing things saying he’s cold wants to go back to the lodge doesn’t know his way back so we have to end what we are doing to take him. He’s just telling us to hurry up. But today, to top it all off I asked him to put LO in the buggy. And he decided he would pick my 2 year old son by his coat near his neck and nothing else. So my little one is dangling and screaming. I told him to never touch him like that again and had a go at him. He tried defending himself saying I asked him to pick him up. I said yes. Not his clothes. Now he’s went straight into his room in a huff. And I’m laid here fuming. I nearly slapped him right there n then touching my LO like that. And no apology either. He’s also been making hints at coming on our next holiday I told him I booked. I’m just mad as fuck. What gives someone the fucking right.

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MascaraAndMintyChocolate · 05/03/2025 00:19

You need to get yourself away from this man

Forget being angry, get scared. Surely this is worrying behaviour.

If I've understood correctly, the father of your ex partner invited himself on your holiday instead of doing you a favour and dropping you off there? Then he's making you uncomfortable? I think you have a situation that could turn very bad here. Get you ex partner there now to get this man to leave or you need to leave.

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 05/03/2025 00:21

You ve posted this twice in 2 different threads.

What a lovely relaxing holiday your dc must be having 😞

Absolute shit show from the adults around him. Shame.

Nanny1983 · 05/03/2025 00:25

Who would drive “less than an hour and half “to drop someone off then an hour and half back home ?
Surely it would’ve been more ideal for you to just get the train ?
Without all the drama you sound a bit entitled ? ONLY an hour and half ..
Are you paying him fuel money or expecting him to pay for that aswell as his time ?

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Jux · 05/03/2025 00:34

Didn't he say he was going that way to visit family? That would explain him driving you an hour and a half.....

Why has his visit to his family fallen through? Was it true or was it always a lie and an excuse for him to insert himself into your holiday when his son wasn't there?

I would be very wary of this man.

Don't indulge him. Don't pay attention to his plans or what he wants. If he wants to leave now got an activity, then let him, if he wants to go back to the lodge before you, let him.

But I think it is most important you get safer, ie. get your bf there asap. If he really can't rescue you, ask the manager if there's an empty lodge you can move into. Tell him your bf's dad has insisted on coming too and is behaving a little oddly and you feel unsafe, can he/she help in any way?

Good luck.

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