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Lifeispassingby · 04/03/2025 19:48

A very very dear friend of mine had a stroke last week whilst I was with her. It’s was a complicated scenario and not the classic stroke symptoms straightaway and I’m wracked with guilt that I didn’t act fast enough. I’m also having flashbacks of the day with her and the time we spent in A&E l which are interfering with my sleep a little as I wake up thinking about it and then can’t get back to sleep. I’m not sure what to do or what I should do to help- I have visited my friend and she doesn’t remember anything except knows that I was there with her the whole time and is very grateful to me for contacting the ambulance and getting her to hospital etc. She doesn’t want to hear about it so I’ve not been able to discuss it with her.

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Diarygirlqueen · 04/03/2025 20:04

My 45 year old husband had a major stroke over 3 yrs ago. He got up early to go to work and I slept on with the kids. He lay downstairs for over 2 hours. The guilt I still feel is overwhelming and I know his mother does resent me. However, he has never blamed me and says it was just bad luck I didn't get up with him. I have forgiven myself somewhat but it's took a long time and honestly, I will never get over it. If only I had known, our lives would be so different.
OP, not your fault, forgive yourself and move on from this guilt talk. You sound a good person and with a friend like you by her side, it'll definitely help her.

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