Is it ok to make friends with child’s (primary) school teacher?

[Sharrison88]

Just wanted some opinions please 😃
my child’s (year one primary school) teacher is due to go on maternity leave soon and we have struck quite a ‘friendship/bond’ (can’t think of the right word but lots of chatting at drop off/pick up etc). I have two children myself and we seem to have a lot in common. This is her first baby and she has asked for my advice on certain (baby related) topics. I was going to suggest meeting for a coffee when she goes off on mat leave (she is new ish to the area and so not many friends in the area).
but now I’m feeling is it awkward to suggest that? I would have to suggest swapping numbers/following on Instagram to keep in touch and now wondering if that’s pushing boundaries?

No reason why not. Your an adult so is she abd it's not like your trying to get into a romance with her.

Thanks for your reply!

I don’t see why not. In one of my kids’ schools a lot of the teachers and parents went to the same church and their kids would all go to youth group together so they were friends. Never caused any issues as the teachers were professionals and the parents didn’t take the piss.

My elder DD was best friends with my younger DDs class teachers daughter. Meant both my DDs spent time at her house, parties together etc.(even a sleepover). There was a clear distinction between home and school though.... Mrs X in the classroom, but not at home for example.

Absolutely do this, I've got a few teacher friends, and although they haven't taught my children, I would have no hesitation. If the friendship blossoms, there will, of course be a few professional boundaries in what you discuss in the future, but other than that, can't see a downside. If she does not take it up wholeheartedly, then maybe those boundaries may seem difficult for her (so please don't feel hurt), but she is a) a mother (to be) and a b) potential friend, and I am sure most people can sometimes say "I'm sorry I can't talk about that, you know how it is". Hopefully you can navigate this, there are too many friendships that don't actually happen because someone is nervous about something. Hope this helps x

One of my best friends was a TA at my kids school, we met through mutual friends not school though. The school were not hugely impressed about friendships between staff and parents but ultimately nothing they can do about it., so not sure they would have been supportive of this route but all schools are different. I would make the offer but dot be offended if she doesn't take you up in it.

Thanks for your replies! On reflection I think I will leave it in case it creates an awkward situation where she says no to exchanging numbers because of rules. It is a shame as I think we would get on really well otherwise.

This is the 3rd thread about this I've seen for you. Frustrating!

Or you give her your number - give me a call and we can meet for coffee - then the balls in her court she can call or not.

Your over thinking it. Sometimes we all need a friend.