I don't know how to phrase this without sounding like a complete idiot.
My ex husband moved out 4 years ago. I have bought him out and he received a substantial settlement.
He still has a key to my house. The issue is I still rely on him for childcare. I leave for the office at 7.30am on Mondays and Tuesdays so he comes to take over. The rest of the week I work from home so I do the school runs on those days.
On Mondays he also picks up the children and takes our ds1 to his swimming lesson. This means he has to come back to my house so they can have dinner then ds1 gets changed and he takes them to ds1's swimming.
He also comes over on Thursday evenings but he doesn't need the key for that because I'm here.
I am getting really sick of the arrangement but I know I have created it of my own doing. He said something tonight which makes me realise he still thinks he can come and go as he pleases.
I could change things so that the children go to breakfast club on these days but they hate going to wraparound and how can I explain it's because I don't want their dad in the house??
How can I tell my ex I want the arrangement to stop after relying on him?
The swimming situation will not go on forever because when ds1 goes up to the next stage there may be a space on a different day.
What do other people do? Does your ex still come over and come into the house? Do they have a key still?
Please help! I am stressed.