When do you stop having a 'bedtime' for your children?

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DS is in his early teens. I'm pretty convinced he would stay up all night playing games or similar if I didn't tell him to go to sleep. I'm just not sure when I should let him decide and then if he's too tired that’s something he will need to deal with!

Dts are 13. We had a huge battle last night when I told them to go to bed at 1030. They were tired and needed to go to sleep, late night the night before and had to get up early it still impacts their behaviour. Their phones at the moment have to be away by 930 at the weekends.

So to answer your question, we still have bedtime!

My eldest, who is 13 and her younger sister who is 12 have a 10pm bedtime, I normally get them to go upstairs around half 9 and they faff around for a bit before going to sleep, to be fair the 13 year old would go to bed around then anyway, the 12 year old would stay up all night!!!

I think this really depends on the DC and whether you can trust them to be reasonable! Our NT 17-year-old hasn't had a bedtime for a year or two and he's a real night owl, whereas I'm not, so I'm not going to stay up and police his bedtime. During the week he usually goes to bed between 11pm-midnight. His choice. Sometimes he's tired and sometimes he asks to have a day off from school, because he's tired. I never allow this and think that he's off to uni next year, so he needs to live and learn.

13-year-old DS has ADHD and he has a bedtime, not least because he has no real sense of time and he'd never go to bed if I didn't enforce it. At what point he develops a bit of maturity and awareness around this, I don't know, but the rules will almost certainly be different for him vs. his NT DB.

I think we stopped around 13 but they had to be off devices and screens at 9pm. They could read / paint toenails late as they liked. They are 15 & 17 now and we tend to stop screens at 10 pm with no battle (we talk about scientific evidence re sleep and screens and impact on mental health a lot).

My DS is 15 and I just leave him to it now. He's off his Xbox at 9pm school nights, 10pm weekends. He will normally stay downstairs with his Dad and go to bed when he does (around 11.30 to midnight)
I tend to go to bed much earlier!

He is fine getting up for school and we just leave him to sleep in on the weekends.

DD is 7 and obviously still has a bedtime. DS is 15 and doesn’t have a bedtime as such, but has to hand over devices at 10 on school nights so tends to just sleep after that because of boredom. I don’t take them on weekends though.

At 14 it’s 9pm. Screens off at 8:30. Sometimes he reads but generally off to sleep. Up at 6:30. I think I’m probably meaner than most. Still managed to average 3 hrs a day phone time. I think it’s helped by a long bus journey to school.