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I’m having a little cry because…

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PeachesPeachesPeachesPeachesPeaches · 01/03/2025 20:11

Name changed in case SIL is on here 😂

My DS is 8. He’s adopted and has SEN. I adopted him with my exhusband - I left him five years ago, and three years ago he stopped having contact with DS after he assaulted DS. Have never heard from any of exes family since - so DS lost his dad, brother, grandma, aunt, uncle and cousins. He hated his dad because he assaulted him but he really struggled with all the loss.

Met my DP about six months after I left my ex and slowly him and DS got to know each other. Not long after contact stopped, DS started calling my DP dad. We corrected him but he persisted. Eventually my DP admitted that it broke his heart to keep correcting him because he “felt like his dad”.

Tonight my DS is having a sleepover at DP’s sisters. She wanted to have him over. It’s his first ever sleepover that isn’t at my mum’s. She’s just sent me a photo of him, her and her husband curled up on the sofa and said that he’d been upstairs on his switch and she asked if he wanted to come downstairs and he said “yes I want to be with family”.

😭😭😭

He had “family” that abandoned him. And it’s their loss because he really is incredible.

But I’d taken for granted that he also has so much family who have chosen him. SIL, BIL and PILs have welcomed him into the family with open arms and he is so comfortable around them, he knows they are his family.

And this has melted my stone cold little heart on the Saturday evening so I’m sat on the sofa sobbing that one little boy can be so very loved.

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HoppityBun · 01/03/2025 20:12

Aw that makes sense a bit tearful too xxx

TheThreeMiracles · 01/03/2025 20:13

How precious ♥️ treasure that Sil she sounds lovely xx

TerrifiedandWorried · 01/03/2025 20:13

That is completely lovely because you must have done such incredible parenting to get him there! Well done you and well done him and hooray for love!

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MyUmberSeal · 01/03/2025 20:15

Absolutely gorgeous 🫶.

Dolambslikemintsauce · 01/03/2025 20:16

I think I have something in my eye..... That's wonderful op.

Marylou2 · 01/03/2025 20:17

Big hug to you OP. Glad you have found good people x

Dolambslikemintsauce · 01/03/2025 20:18

Just wanted to add my dp is df to my 3 dc even though he isn't.. They know they 'chose' him to be their df and he chose to raise them as his. He told me he felt really privileged..
It really is special op.

Avatartar · 01/03/2025 20:18

Ah, you’ll all sleep well tonight x

Binfire · 01/03/2025 20:20

Aww family is as family does 💕 He knows who’s there for him and who cares for him.
Enjoy your evening off xx

KendricksGin · 01/03/2025 20:35

😍

Motnight · 01/03/2025 20:37

How lucky is your little boy to be part of your family, Op.

FriendlyEeyore · 01/03/2025 20:40

I’m so happy for you and your little boy. It sounds like you both have a good supportive family around you ❤

Allmarbleslost · 01/03/2025 20:53

Well now you've set me off op! So lovely

Deedeesharpwhatkindoflady · 01/03/2025 20:54

Happy tears though and that's a lovely change from some of the thread's I've been reading tonight.
A lovely post op thank you for sharing.🥰

Middlemarch123 · 01/03/2025 20:57

Credit to you OP, be proud.
Bless you all.

fourelementary · 01/03/2025 20:58

Awww bless him- that’s lovely and they’re very lucky to be family to him too. ❤️

CarrieMoonbeams · 01/03/2025 21:01

That is just lovely xx

purpleme12 · 01/03/2025 21:02

What a lovely post

NameChangedOfc · 01/03/2025 21:28

You know what? This is one of the most beautiful things I've read in here in quite some time. I think I'm logging off and let your op be the last thing I read for tonight.
Have a good night, OP 💐

caringcarer · 01/03/2025 21:47

I know just how you feel OP. When I married my now DH his whole family welcomed not just me but my 2 DS both who had ADHD. PiL used to take them for a week every summer, take time off from work and take them to do nice things every single day. PiL lived by the coast so much time spent crabbing in little rock pools, building sand castles and little golf courses on the beach because youngest DC had a little golf set he loved to play with, swimming in the sea and body boarding as they grew older. They've left them equal shares with their DGC in their wills too. My FiL is dead now and my MiL is old and my DS's are both adults now but they both go up to see MiL regularly and one DS drives 140 miles each way to do so. The other DS lives much closer to her and often pops in for a cup of tea with her on a Sunday afternoon or takes her out for a cream tea or even an ice cream. My MiL is my DS's family far more than their biological grandmother, mother of exh, who is cold and always complaining because they had ADHD and couldn't keep still enough for her liking. Your DS has a wonderful family, just like my DS's do. A family who chose to be in his life. ❤️

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 02/03/2025 07:27

How wonderful.
This just proves my experience again, that family is about actions, not words or blood.

PeachesPeachesPeachesPeachesPeaches · 02/03/2025 08:52

Ah such lovely messages 🥰 he’s a very lucky boy but we are so much luckier to have him.

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