Can't stop comparing myself

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I am driving myself crazy. I can't stop comparing myself to women on the tv/online/anywhere and feeling that DH would much prefer to be sleeping with them!

DH hasn't given any indication that he is at all feeling this way, btw.

How do I get these thoughts out of my head? It's making me internally angry with him for no reason, I keep presuming he's watching porn or going on hook-up websites and it's making me feel disgusting.

He has a couple of old friends who do go to strip clubs and/or cheat on their partners but he hasn't seen them for ages and again I have no reason to think he's done anything even if he has seen them.

This is all in my head but I just don't want it there, I can't stand even watching TV together as I feel rank compared with the younger thinner women.

Get a hobby or other interest. Seriously. Find more depth and fun and joy in life than in your own paranoia. We all get old. There Will always be younger, fitter, thinner, prettier women than you. They too will age and get ill. Ffs. We are all human. Find more to life.

I have hobbies and interests and work full time with 2 DC. This isn't a time issue, I asked for help with what's in my head when I do sit down for half an hour in the evening and when I can't sleep at night.

Thanks for the 'ffs' that's really helpful.

Just a bump in case anyone has successfully got over something like this.

It sounds like anxiety to me OP, I suffer terribly. I can't always pinpoint triggers or why I'm anxious about certain things, which is kind of what it feels like is happening for you - you've no reason to have these thoughts but they are there and they are causing you worry and anxiety.

Do you have a history of anxiety? There are plenty of great apps like Headspace and Calm which provide gentle support for anxiety as well as breathing exercises and sleep casts which I find really helpful as my anxiety peaks as I'm trying to sleep. There's always your GP too, if you think you may have anxiety.

Thank you for replying.

I haven't had anxiety before but I suppose that's what it could be. I can literally feel my heart racing and my palms getting sweaty - I just can't get the thoughts out of my head and it's really horrible.

Maybe a chat with your gp could be worth a shot? My anxiety does the same to me with the fast heart rate, sweaty palms etc.

Wishing you all the best, you are enough 🌻