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Had a bit of a healing moment today

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Inmyfeelstoday · 27/02/2025 16:49

I had a really abusive childhood, every way imaginable. Broke free from my mother years ago, now she's in her last few weeks of life, so Im told, and I feel a bit numb about it all.

Today my 16yo and I were just hanging out, not doing much, chatting, eating, watching a film, and I said to her that I hope one day she is blessed with a daughter just like her (she really wants to be a mum one day, I wouldn't just say it).

I then had a flash back to all the times my Mother said to me "I hope you have a daughter just like you" as an insult when I was acting out due to the abuse.

Well I did have a daughter just like me, and it's been an absolute privilege to raise her and see what my life could have been like if I had a good Mum. It doesn't make me sad anymore, it makes me proud to have broken that cycle, and I'm so lucky to have my kids.

No real point to this thread really, just having a bit of a reflective moment.

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Quitelikeit · 27/02/2025 16:51

It’s so lovely to read that you have not let your upbringing destroy your adult life

It happens all to often and it’s very hard to remain resilient as an adult when you did not have the right foundations as a child

GreenSedan · 27/02/2025 16:56

That's lovely ❤️ Wishing you and your daughter all the best.

SardinesOnGingerbread · 27/02/2025 16:57

Very lovely. I had a similar upbringing, and was very healed by realising that my (similar in character to me) daughter was actually very easy to love.

imustbeanidiot · 27/02/2025 16:58

That's great OP, you cherish your lovely daughter.

It's a great thing indeed to leave traumatic times behind and move forward. Good you you.

Inmyfeelstoday · 27/02/2025 17:30

Thank you.

I feel very similar @SardinesOnGingerbread I always thought I was the problem and that's why my own Mother didn't love me, but my daughter is exactly like me, minus the trauma, and she is so easy to love.

I also had a lot if "I love you because I have to, but I never liked you", I just cannot imagine ever saying that to my kids.

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comfyslippets · 27/02/2025 17:37

I'm so sorry you had an upbringing as you describe, but I have to say your post made me quite emotional. The fact you overcame that and raised what clearly sounds like an amazing young woman that seems to love you so much is amazing. You must be so proud of her and yourself. What a strong woman you are ❤️

cinnamonbunfight · 27/02/2025 17:41

You’re amazing. What a lovely post. All the very very best to you.

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