Is it common for women to want to fall pregnant again soon after abortions?

[LottieGreenMoss]

Genuinely intrigued by this and not judging anyone.

My cousin had a termination months ago. Now she wants to try again and is pining for a baby.

I've seen threads on the conception section of women trying to get pregnant not long after an abortion. If this is common, surely they probably wouldn't have had the abortion if proper therapy was given beforehand?

I'm TTC don't have any kids and now I'm scared I'll want to have an abortion if I get pregnant

Maybe title should be 'Is it common for women to want to fall pregnant, fall pregnant, and want to have an abortion'
IDK

I imagine it’s a knee jerk reaction to want to be pregnant again but the abortion must have been the right decision for them at the time.

Your cousin had a termination months ago when she felt unable to cope with pregnancy and a baby, now, months on, she feels like she is in a place to cope, which is totally valid.

If you're actively ttc then you probably won't be in a bad place when you conceive so it wouldn't be an issue for you.

Its great that we live in a country where we can make these choices.

I definitely see it fairly regularly on here, people regretting an abortion and trying to get pregnant immediately after. My DD’s friends (only 18yo at the time) accidentally fell pregnant, they didn’t want the baby at the time but she couldn’t go through with an abortion. I thought they’d have been relieved when she miscarried after drinking an entire bottle of jack daniels. But weirdly they started trying again immediately despite being told by medical professionals to at least allow herself to heal first, I think she was pregnant again within the month. Unfortunately they’re still utterly irresponsible, judge me all you want for judging them, but the child’s absolutely feral and they have no clue 😞

I'm glad we have the option and wouldn't want to live in a country without it but I imagine the NHS being understaffed and pressured means they can't exactly give extensive therapy before every abortion, I imagine they only do that if the woman is much further long but that's a guess. A lot of women feel some level of dread when pregnant, planned or not, that's from my experience and from women I've known. Often with first pregnancy but can be other things like finance worries, work, age etc. There's a lot to of things to weigh and then suddenly you're really pregnant, it's really happening and every concern is amplified. It's not like buying a fridge. But the drive to have a baby is so strong that no matter what your head says your body sends another message...make babies...
Most women don't take abortion lightly, in an ideal world they would have the baby but they weigh things up and at the end of the day time is ticking and a choice must be made.

Yes.

Hormonally, your body is telling you you've lost a baby and ought to want to have another one. I believe you also experience a slight spike in fertility, as you do after a miscarriage.

Therapy can be wonderful, but the human body is complicated.

A good friend of mine had a termination for medical reasons, which was very traumatic (her baby wouldn't have survived pregnancy), and she said something she found very hard was how strongly she felt the urge to get pregnant again, almost as if she were unable to grieve that loss properly first.

Incredibly common - and at least in part hormonal.

I had to terminate a pregnancy due to a condition where the baby would not have survived the birth. It was all very traumatic as I had to deliver the baby through the normal birth process - no being knocked out under a GA and the baby being surgically removed. After a few months I very much had a a strong maternal desire to go through another pregnancy. Which I did and gave birth to a lovely little girl who is now 25. I think it is nature's way with dealing with loss.

I think some women are pressured to have an abortion and don't realise how they will feel about it until it's too late. Another pregnancy rescues their relationship, or their mental health.

How old is she?

Does she have money, house - accomodation, job, family help together to do it?

Having a child is a reality for life.