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Boyfriend of one month as an average

13 replies

kuik · 26/02/2025 09:36

Do and I are finally getting married after being together for many years. We are having very small wedding. PIL, Sil and her family, my parents, my best friend and my sister. Ds is recently divorced and now has been going out with a man for one month. She asked if he could come to the wedding. I have never met him and it would make logistics difficult. Dh was planning to get dp, friend and ds from airport.

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healthybychristmas · 26/02/2025 09:45

I wouldn't want some random there in such a small wedding party. Just say no!

healthybychristmas · 26/02/2025 09:48

The emphasis would be on him at the wedding party, everyone trying to get to know him, and that's not fair at your wedding.

MayaPinion · 26/02/2025 09:51

I’d just say, ‘Close family only, darling. It’s a very small wedding. We’d love to meet him the next time you come to visit but for now we just want to keep it to people we love the most.’

nodramaplz · 26/02/2025 09:55

kuik · 26/02/2025 09:36

Do and I are finally getting married after being together for many years. We are having very small wedding. PIL, Sil and her family, my parents, my best friend and my sister. Ds is recently divorced and now has been going out with a man for one month. She asked if he could come to the wedding. I have never met him and it would make logistics difficult. Dh was planning to get dp, friend and ds from airport.

I'd say no.
Does she have a long term girl friend that's close to you all that she can go with?

Original poster
kuik · 04/03/2025 06:34

I told her the reasons and now she has told mum that she is not coming. I texted her to ask but no answer. We live in different countries.

OP posts:
Slobberchops1 · 04/03/2025 06:36

Oh well never mind . Let her have her strop, everyone will know how ridiculous and petty she is

DullardFrigate · 04/03/2025 06:38

She doesn't really want to be there for you. Leave her to it.

FannyBawz · 04/03/2025 06:39

Let he strop away OP

teenmaw · 04/03/2025 06:42

She's a petulant l, immature manipulator OP. Do not chase her

SheilaFentiman · 04/03/2025 06:51

Leave her to it. She may well turn up anyway (quite surprised she didn’t get the ticket a few Months ago!)

Blubbles · 04/03/2025 06:55

kuik · 04/03/2025 06:34

I told her the reasons and now she has told mum that she is not coming. I texted her to ask but no answer. We live in different countries.

Is she 5?

KidsDoBetter · 04/03/2025 06:59

Bizarrely and it was bizarre … I went to my partners sibs wedding after we had been seeing each other about 6 weeks. He did ask me having checked with his sister. I was surprised but he knew I was the one …. I wasn’t in any proper photos etc. we are still together 4 years later but v easily might not have been statistically.

But if his sister had said no would have been totally understandable. Do what’s right for you x

LostMyLanyard · 04/03/2025 07:06

She doesn't sound old enough to have a boyfriend ffs! Let her sulk 🤷‍♀️

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