I think I dated a psychopath?

[MrsSpoonerism]

(I know the term is becoming obsolete now).

We've split up now. She split up with me.

I am just interested.

She told me that she left me because she knows I deserve love, and she can't give it. In her words she 'Couldn't love anyone-she couldn't even love her own children'.
She tried to kill me once (I think) violently. She has said she'd disappointed with this, she thought she'd get more of a psychological thrill or high, than she did once she'd done it.
Those two instances-but other things are less monumental. E.G I once arranged a bit of an evening out for her and one of her children and she didn't fancy it. Her son really did, so I said 'come on, won't be for long I'll just get us some dinner, couple of drinks then home'. She said okay, and then said to me 'Remember, I didn't want to go'. She then caused a major upset that night, really upsetting her child (and me).

There are several things like that.

I posted this in 'site stuff' by mistake originally

You think your girlfriend tried to kill you and carried on seeing her? This is a very strange thing to do. Why didn't you go to the police?

No, we split up some time ago now.

Are you looking for advice?

Why did you stay with her?

She doesn’t sound pleasant so you’re best off without her. Spending time thinking about or over analysing an ex isn’t helpful to moving on. So maybe just be thankful you had a lucky escape?

I am very thankful!

It just came into my head, that a woman capable of such things may be what one might label as psychotic. Wondered what other people thought.

I stayed as there was always a 'valid' reason why she'd done the things she'd done. But she broke up with me and gave that as the reason. Combined with everything else, I realised she may be in the realms of psychopathy.

Not advice per se, more so to see if others thought those things are the realms of psychopathy.

This is fascinating!

Sorry, OP, do you mean psychotic or psycopath? Just to clarify.

In one post you say psychopath.

In another you say psychotic.

These are two completely different things.

I don't think you really know what either means, so perhaps stop trying the amateur diagnosis.

She certainly doesn't sound very nice. You are well out of it. Why worry about what her problem was?

I don't know if she's a psychopath. Was she diagnosed?

It sounds like there was something very wrong with her if she tried to murder you for a thrill. However you were dumped by someone who tried to kill you; you didn't finish the relationship.

Have you had therapy?

What "valid" reason did she have to try and kill you?

Yes she sounds like a psychopath!

Trying to kill you was the big giveaway.

Sorry, I meant to type psychopathic.

She wasn't psychotic. Not ever that I know of.

Sorry, I meant to type psychopathic.

She wasn't psychotic. Not ever that I know of.

I think i do know what they mean. I don't claim to be an expert on psychopathy of course.

Im not worried. More so curious about what others would think.

I had therapy yes, it didn't do a scrap of good though..I've had it for other things too and same unfortunately.

I hope you reported your concerns to social services or the police or something and didn't just leave those children to the mercy of a suspected violent psychopath.

Why care about what label you want to put on her?
All you need to know is that she's bad news, and keep well away from her !

Her children weren't in her care. I didn't tell the police any of it.

Yes, I'm away from her now.
I am just curious.

Why not?

I was afraid of the consequences.

How can you THINK she tried to kill you?

Obviously she has contact her children. I would report social services. They might not be in her care now but they might end up being in their care

How did she try and kill you ?

They're of age now. The youngest was late teens when this happened.