When did your new home feel like home?

[Awayfromhome12]

its my first night in my new home, and i miss my old home so much. I feel like I need to go home and then realise this is my home now. It smells, feels and even sounds different. I’m jumping at every sound because I don’t recognise it. Worrying the neighbours are going to be noisy. Doesn’t help we haven’t got internet yet so no Netflix. I just want to go home and feel sad, even a bit sick. Is this normal? I wanted somewhere bigger, now I’ve got it and I want my dingy but very cosy flat back.

We’d live in our previous house for almost 30 years. I can honestly say that this house felt like home from day one. We’d decorated it all before we moved in put new carpets in the bedrooms, stairs and landing. There’s such a lot of things that need changing starting with windows and the bathroom we’ve got a lot of expensive stuff to do and don’t want to rush it. Taking time to save for what we really want and not making do with a cheaper option just to make a change.

I was in my last place over 10 years which is probably why I feel the way I do. A lot of milestones and lovely memories and the location was fabulous. But we are priced out and desperately need somewhere bigger. It is what it is. Our new home is lovely, just not in the location I wanted so badly and I have to make peace with that somehow. Unless I find a much higher paid job which isn’t likely!

I think this is normal. When we moved, I sent the first week crying that we'd made an awful mistake. It took me about 3 months to actually feel settled, we're now 4 years in and it's definitely home.

I adapt quite quickly as I’ve moved around a bit, but I do need to clean it, light candles to get rid of the “other people smell”, make a cup of tea, have a shower, have a shit.