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No family photos..... am I weird

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Titasaducksarse · 23/02/2025 14:54

Hi all
I was just watching a crime programme and investigators commented the murdered person had no photos etc.

Just realised we're the same. We don't have children but we also don't have any photos of us up or family. Only photo is of the dog!

Am I weird? I don't have sentimentality over things so maybe put it down to that, or most likely in my case is I have quite a difficult relationship with my family and don't really like seeing some of them but partner has good relationship with his family.

Nb...i have to undertake visits to people's homes as part of my job role and always enjoy seeing other people's pictures

OP posts:
Redglitter · 23/02/2025 14:57

I dont have children but I'm very close to my brother & his family. I'm probably the opposite extreme. The upper section of my hall has about 35 photo tiles of mostly family and a couple of friends.

I also have a framed photo of my mum and nieces in my living room & my dad & nieces in my bedroom

SullysBabyMama · 23/02/2025 15:00

I have about 4 photos throughout the entire house. I live my family very much but they live here. I know what they look like. We have souvenirs from holidays to remember them about.

Whatisthisbs · 23/02/2025 15:02

Photos galore in my house. I love looking back at memories

mindutopia · 23/02/2025 15:05

If something happened to me, yes, Dh would be able to find photos of me on social media as I do hobbies where I am posting photos from time to time. Not loads, but certainly he’d be able to find something from the past year that looks like me. Most of my photos are kids or the dog though. 😂

My actual family, no, wouldn’t even know I was missing. I am NC with them and they probably wouldn’t be able to find a photo more recent than 5-6 years ago.

I follow a lot of missing persons cases and I don’t think it’s that uncommon to not have a recent photo of what someone actually looks like. People who go missing, voluntarily or not, quite often have fractured family relationships. And photos that end up being used are either really old or heavily filtered from social media.

weareladyparts · 23/02/2025 15:08

No photos on display at mine either, I have memories in my head and don't need a prompt, like you I visit people in their homes for work and enjoy the variety of styles!

Hillrunning · 23/02/2025 15:09

I don't have any photos up. Two very small ones that someone else have to me. I know what the people I love look like, I don't need to put them up as decoration.

It's totally fine. We take lots of photos but they stay digital.

Sinkintotheswamp · 23/02/2025 15:10

I have a few of the dc's but one DC ripped down most of them so it's not as many as I'd like.

My mum has none. It's weird and I hate it. She took a shit photo of me a decade ago when my niece arrived.
If I ever go missing my family will struggle to find a picture of me, they don't do photos. Does my head in.

whirlyhead · 23/02/2025 15:10

My partner has a couple of family photos up but I have none. I won’t even have wedding photos up. I have artworks instead which I much prefer to look at - I know what my family looks like.

my partner would struggle to find a photo of me on his phone too.

we do have pet photos and drawings up though!

Clarasmum444 · 23/02/2025 15:18

None in this house either. DC only. I have zero photos of the rest of my family, not sure why...

obsessedwithfreshbread · 23/02/2025 15:18

No family photos on display here either.
We did in our old house and I hated it.. made the place look untidy and dusting took longer!

DSC keep asking when we'll put them up, but been in this house 3 years and I have no intention of them going up

Reugny · 23/02/2025 15:20

weareladyparts · 23/02/2025 15:08

No photos on display at mine either, I have memories in my head and don't need a prompt, like you I visit people in their homes for work and enjoy the variety of styles!

I am similar.

I do have artwork up though - mostly my DDs.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 23/02/2025 15:23

My photos are all printed out and arranged in albums which are in tidy boxes on top of my wardrobe.

I have one photo of DS up (my favourite photo of him) which is part of a gallery wall.

I love art and have a lot of it. But not photos.

CMOTDibbler · 23/02/2025 15:24

We have lots of art, but no photos up at all. Plenty on our phones though

menopausalfart · 23/02/2025 15:26

I have loads of family but none of me. I don't have any from when I was a child either.

wastingtimeonhere · 23/02/2025 15:28

There are boxes in the loft with some photos from when my kids were little.
Not as many as I would have 5 it used to be expensive, and we were poor. I don't have many from my childhood for the same reason.
I have photos out on our sideboard of our GC that their mother has sent. One each of our DC.
There are very few of me anywhere. If I went missing or was news worthy in any way, they would struggle.
My dog, on the other hand....😂

TorroFerney · 23/02/2025 15:34

If you hadn't said you had no kids I would have thought you were my mother. Although she does have one on display - of herself.

gettingthehangofsewing · 23/02/2025 15:55

I have maybe 20 photos frames or canvases plus around 30 albums spanning 45 years. I tend to do an album roughly once a year.

Sosoweary · 23/02/2025 16:30

I've got albums and albums of photos of my son from when he was a tiny baby until he was about 11. After that the photos got more and more sporadic. His Dad, my DH, is in quite a few of the photos but I'm in hardly any as I hate how I look.

After my DH died I actually couldn't bare to look at the photo albums. I found the memories they evoked much too sad.
So I don't really want photos up in my home.

. But I take the occasional photo of my son on my phone when he visits - he lives in another city- and I like to look at those sometimes.

TheTecknician · 23/02/2025 16:53

I don't have any family photographs in my possession anywhere. It isn't right, wrong, normal or weird.

Dearg · 23/02/2025 16:59

I was going to say I am the same op, but then I realise I have a couple of small, old , black& white photos of my parents when they were young and newly married They looked so glam! ( would have been the 1950s).

I have a lot of art on the walls and several of my very lovely dogs.

LittleLlama · 23/02/2025 17:04

I have a couple of Gallery type walls in my house with family photos which I love. However, I know this would not be to everyone’s taste. My SIL has a very minimalist style with no “wall clutter” (as she would put it) and while this may seem quite sterile, it suits her and her house. I don’t think it is strange or weird one way or another.

Iloveeverycat · 23/02/2025 17:12

When I decorated my lounge years ago took all the kids photos down and didn't put them up again so have none now. They are late teens now so don't see why I need to have all the old school photos up now.

fussychica · 23/02/2025 17:16

I have a couple of photos of parents/child in each room and a largish portrait of DCs matriculation at Oxford in the hall but two of my neighbours have walls/surfaces covered in family photos. Not for me, I don't like clutter.
We have dozens of old style photo albums of older pre digital stuff dating back to pre war days (parents collection) which I probably look through once a year and hundreds, if not thousands, in digital format covering the last 25 years which I browse regularly.

justanothercrapbedtime · 23/02/2025 18:11

I have lots - lots of happy memories though.

Have to say - and be a bit morbid - that my stance very much changed after visiting Auschwitz - there is a room just full of photos. That's all that's left of those men women and children. Since then I've taken and displayed a lot more family photos

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