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DH and teen DC. Is it selfish of me to go out on a Friday & Saturday night ?

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Rosetintedandallthat · 23/02/2025 09:59

DH has friends he can meet up with. Teen dc do own thing anyways. It just feels selfish of me to go out on both weekend nights, leaving DH to do own thing. We usually have at least 1 Fri or sat night together every week. Not the rule though.

Thoughts?

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Lentilweaver · 23/02/2025 10:00

Not selfish. I do it all the time.

rubyslippers · 23/02/2025 10:01

No it’s not selfish. Is it every Friday and Saturday?
why do you feel bad
teens don’t want to hang out with parents and your DH could make his own plans?

Lentilweaver · 23/02/2025 10:11

My DH doesn't have any friends and I do, but that's his issue to solve really! We also do stuff together, but I go out way more.

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Rosetintedandallthat · 23/02/2025 10:28

Now teen dc do own thing and we aren't needed as much. We have more free time. We have both found ourselves at a little bit of a loose end occasionally but we lean on each other for company and enjoy this.i know DH would feel a bit awkward if he went out twice on the same weekend but I wouldn't stop him going and vice versa. We kind of look forward to an evening on the sofa together knowing we don't have to get up for work the next day (or least I do and I hope - think - he does too !)

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pizzaHeart · 23/02/2025 10:32

Regularly? No, I won’t.
Occasionally ? Yes and I’ve done this in the past. My social calendar is not busy but it can happens that meet ups are only possible on certain dates due to other people’s restrictions so it’s fine.

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Rosetintedandallthat · 23/02/2025 10:35

Also to add, I don't want to go out twice in a row. I like my weekends with at least 1 night in with DH. We have busy working weeks and like to come together weekend nights. I'm seeing old work friends one eve, I'm really looking forward to this as I've not seen these friends for a few months. The next eve another friend will be expecting to see me. I've not seen her to go out out (or drinks at hers) for a few weeks and if I don't see her on the night in question then it will be another 2 weeks until I see her. And she won't be happy with this.

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Lentilweaver · 23/02/2025 10:37

You are overthinking this.

rwalker · 23/02/2025 10:38

I think your looking for a problem that’s not there it sounds like you are the one who doesn’t want to go out

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