Can you be bothered with drunk people?

[Sundaydrizzle]

I rarely drink anymore since I hit mid 40s, it makes me tired, gives me an upset stomach and hangxiety. I will have one or possibly two drinks if I'm on holiday or suchlike, but can easily go months without even thinking about having alcohol.

The trouble is my tolerance for people being drunk is zero!

I'm due to go on a work thing next weekend and I know one of the women will cry, another will start doing cartwheels and bash into someone / something, I just really CBA with any of it.

I'm also going for lunch with a friend next week who will sink a bottle at least, I feel like saying I'll head off after her second glass as she'll repeat herself and give me a headache.

Is this quite normal when you stop drinking? Or am I just a grumpy old toad? Maybe it's peri, but I've just got zero time for nurse maiding people.

You need better friends. Most of my friends enjoy a glass or two of wine but they are moderate drinkers and don't get drunk.

I don't enjoy being around drunk people either.

@RampantIvy my actual friends are grand, we often go for lunch, dinner, walks etc, with little or no alcohol involved.
The works thing I'm not really in control of, they are just people I work with....I may just sack it off and not go. The friend is a long standing friend who is in town for a rare visit, and I really do want to catch up with her, she's great company initially. I may have an appointment at 3pm our suchlike and have to leave.....but then you can't leave a tipsy person alone in a restaurant, they become your responsibility etc, I'm just over it.

Funny thing is, when you stop drinking friends will say - oh youre boring, your no fun etc, but truth is, drunk people are bloody boring! Repeating themselves, slurring, crying etc. im with you, leave early!

I can't stand drunk people. Alcohol really is a terrible drug.

I can’t be arsed with them but i remember how i used to love drinking and partying when I was younger so I try to have patience

I don't mind being the DD and being around a few merrily tipsy people, most of my friends resemble hobbits when on the booze and will just sit around telling stories, eating and occasionally having a little dance which I think can be a delightful evening even if you're the only sobre one.

But once we reach the crying and doing cartwheels stage I'm well over it. This is why I don't attent any work events anymore, I can't be doing with watching grown adults in their 30's, 40's and 50's behaving like stupid teenagers who've just discovered WKD for the first time!

In my 20s I hung around with very heavy drinkers- including my alcoholic DH.
But I got to the stage where I was worried about my drinking and I would be sat in my own home with a crowd of drunks while I would be sat just drinking water. They were so so boring and embarrassing.
I left my DH because of drink and the drinking culture we were involved in.

I still find being around drunks an unpleasant experience. Their behaviour ranges from boring, embarrassing, stupid , and annoying right through to very threatening.

I dislike drunken behaviour. My first husband was an absolute weapons-grade twat when he’d been drinking, and I grew to hate it. Oh, he was a lot of fun in front of his family and friends, a real “character”; he saved all his bitterness, bile and venom for when we got home.

Book lunch somewhere that doesnt involve alcohol and pretend you didnt realise 🤣🤣. My local lebanese eatery doesnt sell alcohol but is delicious

I can’t stand being around drunk people when I’m sober, it’s a different wavelength completely and it’s best if everyone is either all sober or all tipsy/drunk. I went on a night out recently and thought I’ll skip the hangover plus save money so didn’t drink but it was no fun at all when everyone else was drinking

A bottle of wine at lunch if the person you're with isnt even drinking is crazy and actually very anti-social (and I do drink socially but not if no one with me is)