What is wrong with me?

[bluemoonpig]

NC'd for this.

Currently 21 weeks pregnant. I had a really rough trimester that left me pretty much bedridden until about 14 weeks. Even now I don't feel 100% but bloods etc normal. DH has been amazing and does all the cooking and school runs- I'm very lucky. I do do housework, I'd say 65%.

We moved to the area not too long ago and I didn't have time to get to know anyone before becoming pregnant. Since being pregnant, I've probably left the house 10 times including midwife and hospital appointments. I didn't get to know any of the mums etc before so I only have Dh and Dc. I have posted on local groups and friendship groups to try and make friends and no one has responded. I have no attention span anymore, usually an avid reader but I just can't or watch a film. I spend DC's school hours on mumsnet or housework or planning our first upcoming holiday. I feel that's the only thing I have to look forward to and I'll be 30 weeks. I just have no interests anymore. I have no reason to feel this way, I have a lovely DH and DC and relatively easy life. I used to go to the gym 4 times a week but can't go due to how I feel. Why do I feel this way?

You less you do the less you’ll want to do and that will make you feel low.

It sounds like you are lonely 😔 why don’t you try joining some local hobby groups, what are your interests?

I think it sounds like you are both tired and depressed. I also think you are being too hard on yourself. Friendships happen organically. I would never in a million years respond on Facebook to someone wanting to meet new people. I’d assume it was a scam or MLM. It’s not that you are doing something right, it’s just not really how it works. Do you feel well enough for a pregnancy yoga class? I met people that way when pregnant (and NCT, but that’s more for first babies). Otherwise, baby massage and baby yoga were really key for my mental health and meeting other mums. Same with a breastfeeding and a natural parenting group. You just have to find your tribe, but realistically, it’s not easy until the baby is here and you are out and about more.

@LavenderFields7 kind of, I mean I have DH and DC for company (which I enjoy) but I just feel like a zombie when they're at school. Used to gym 4 times a week and read like I couldn't stop but I just have no appetite for anything (apart from food!).