My friend and me

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We are both in our 50s and work FT.

My friend has so much energy, she's up at 6am most days bright as the sun and raring to go. She is the social queen arranging days/night outs. There is always a drama in her world (not necessarily bad ones), she laughs at the hard times and carries on regardless. She is on the go 24/7 and loves it that way. She is here/there and everywhere. Always out and about somewhere doing something. She is a ray of sunshine, even in the shitty times.

Me - my current mood is sluggish, eating everything and anything, tired, low mood, don't want to go out or go anywhere or do anything, want to stay indoors and hide myself away. I am dragging myself out of bed at the last minute for work (WFH), not even brushed my hair or showered etc. Aside from typing this, I am currently sitting staring at my pc. I should be working.

How can I be more like my friend ? how can I get out of my current mood ?

The low mood and lack of energy might be related to your diet, if it’s poor? Or a deficiency of some kind. Do you get outdoors much?

Have you always been like this or is it a new thing?

Well- I'd be getting some blood tests. I have pernicious anaemia that was undoagnosed and untreated for years and it meant that I was felled like a tree circa 6 pm at night and exhausted throughout the day. THis combined with low level depression due to life events meant I was sleep walking for a solid 5 years- total waste of my life.

Targeted treatment has been transformative.

People like her will probably break if they stop so they don’t.

Eating the wrong foods and staying home won’t be doing you any favours. Get into a better routine and you’ll soon be more like your friend.

Menopause symptoms or under active thyroid? SAD maybe? Sleep apnea can cause overwhelming tiredness or maybe you have anaemia. Or just two very different characters. Stop comparing yourself unfavourably to her.
Find out if you have underlying health issues.
Buy a daylight lamp which would help with the lack of light.
Have a shower, if you have access to one. Lay out clean clothes before you do.
Force yourself to get up and get outside, even just to sniff the air. Work up to a walk.
Work out when you are least tired and do something to extend that feeling.
Which part of her lifestyle would you want to have most? Her resilience or sunny nature? How would you start to achieve that?
I used to be a combination of you and your friend. I have started saying yes to every invitation and following through. I don't walk as much as I should, but I find something lovely in each day. Some days are harder than others, today being a shitty health day.
Forgive yourself if you need to. Be gentle with yourself too. Be the best you.
Good luck

Different personalities I think, try to mindfully get some better routines as your not naturally a go getter. Hopefully this will make you feel better and more willing to keep at it. However you may just need more down time than your friend and that's ok.