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Dd self harm education.

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Changename46 · 19/02/2025 10:05

Dd has been struggling recently with her mental health. She's on the waiting list for CAMHS , has counselling at school and speaks kooth .

She told me last night that she had self harmed. I asked her why and she:
Literally everything that I could think of, I started thinking about homework and then i started thinking about the exams I just had and how badly I probably did and then it was GCSEs and I realised I’m definitely gonna fail my controlled assessment for business and definitely gonna fail IT as a whole because I have no idea what I’m doing like at all.

I told her to come to my room. And we had a hug and a chat . I told her that I understand school put alot of pressure on them to do well . I told her but you do your best for yourself. Not for the school to look good. I told her education is for ever even if she did fail. She can try again. But there's also other things such as b tech. And other courses. I told her that GCSE is not worth self harm and that she is more important.

I'm not in the position to get her extra tutoring. Also dd says she feels she needs a break from school stuff so I think that would just cause more stress for her. And I can't afford it anyway

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noblegiraffe · 19/02/2025 10:08

I'm so sorry, this must be very distressing for you.

There's some advice for parents about when children self-harm here: https://www.youngminds.org.uk/parent/parents-a-z-mental-health-guide/self-harm/

Please let the school know, particularly with her worries around homework/coursework and they may be able to come up with a plan for support or reassure that she is doing ok.

Changename46 · 19/02/2025 10:13

noblegiraffe · 19/02/2025 10:08

I'm so sorry, this must be very distressing for you.

There's some advice for parents about when children self-harm here: https://www.youngminds.org.uk/parent/parents-a-z-mental-health-guide/self-harm/

Please let the school know, particularly with her worries around homework/coursework and they may be able to come up with a plan for support or reassure that she is doing ok.

School already know. But I am going to contact them again. As dd says a few counselling sessions have been missed. Which is not helpful. I will tell them what dd has said to.

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