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Who still rents in their 40’s/50’s- What is your plan?

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Myhouseismyprison · 19/02/2025 05:31

I live in the South East, for various reasons we have never managed to purchase our own home.

I am now in my late 40’s and DH is 50. We still have children at home who all have their lives here so unable to pick up and move somewhere cheaper just yet.

We have some savings but nowhere near enough to buy here for the house size we would need. We have rented the same house for several years but know this can change quickly and have no idea how we would afford current market rent.

I just wondered what plans people had in place for retirement? What savings accounts would be good?

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Nellsbell · 21/02/2025 07:33

I rent and I am retraining following my divorce. I hope to be able to save once qualified. I intend to move to a cheaper area or consider shared ownership. My children are secondary school age so I need to wait until they are out of school anyway. I’m lucky that I have a private rent that is long term and safe due to the landlord inheriting the properties. I may have inheritance come my way at some point but it depends on care. I looked at the help to buy scheme a few years ago but then it changed to first time buyers only which I’m not due to owning previously. Which made no sense to getting people to buy as not everyone is young and in their first housing situation. Plus situations change.

Booboobagins · 21/02/2025 07:34

I sort of feel like Im in the same boat but with a mortgage milestone around my neck. My mortgage is now £2.5k pcm and runing until Im 72yo. I have a pension pot that is insufficient to pay the mortgage so obvs I'm still working - huge uplift as I had semi retired in 2012 but I did lose my DH in 2016 and as he was a SAHP, it def fd everything up esp given I'd semi retired in 2012.

My DCs are 22yo and 23yo now. I doubt they'll move out soon but I'd love to downsize. I'm looking at a rural setting tbh because we have dogs and I hanker for greenspace. I'd love to move somewhere in the middle of Wales, but that would take the DCs away from their friends and me from my clients.

I def would not live in SE - I'd commute from somewhere cheaper like Hertfordshire, Bedfordshire, Buckinghamshire, East or West Midlands. Obvs depends on your kids needs, but if needs must...

TipsyCoralOtter · 21/02/2025 07:36

EdithBond · 21/02/2025 07:07

Late 50s, lone parent with adult DC at home and being crucified by rent. Worked non stop entire life. Masters degree. Financially shafted by ex. Wouldn’t afford to buy even a 1 bed around here. Will never be able to retire. Totally stuffed. Will have to keep house sharing with DC (we get on grand). Used to be ill with worry. But now try not to think about it and just enjoy life. I know people who did everything right, scrimped and saved, moved somewhere soulless and isolated so they could buy, but died before any of it came to fruition.

Out of curiosity, what happens if your adult DC decides to move in with a romantic partner and doesn't want to live with you anymore? I have friends in the same position and I'm the same age as their DC, and I always think about what happens when the DC wants more independence.

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Wells37 · 21/02/2025 07:36

Those of you who are over 55 or 60 get on the council list for social housing. The list for sheltered accommodation is a lot shorter than normal social housing. I'm in a big city in the south.
I have a family member who granted isn't in the best health (so might have got him higher up the list) in his 50s, but got offered a housing association flat within 4 months.
When I initially inquired for him they said max wait for sheltered accommodation is usually 12-18 months if you are over 55 or 60 depending on the scheme.

Twiglets1 · 21/02/2025 07:36

Could your adult children pay you rent @Booboobagins ?

My adult son pays £400 a month which is nothing really as we provide everything for him but it does help to pay the bills.

EdithBond · 21/02/2025 07:40

DaphneduM · 21/02/2025 06:08

That sounds brilliant - well done for being pro-active and having the security of your own home.

There's definitely a big divide in pensioners currently - those who rent and get everything paid for by the state - and those who own their houses, paying their own way and contributing towards the former by way of paying income tax.

Could you explain how pensioners pay income tax. Do you mean on interest payments from savings?

And lots of pensioners who rent get nothing paid by the state, other than the state pension they’ve paid into. They live off their professional pension.

User7288339 · 21/02/2025 07:44

rivalsbinge · 19/02/2025 06:09

We rented until our 40s and the only way we bought was with inheritance. Also in the south east.

Otherwise we'd still be renting, my mum in her 80s is renting and it's a bloody nightmare as she only on just above state pension and we are having to massively top up, with no end to the rent going up and up as she ages.

So I'd be doing anything I could in your position to save and buy for old age if nothing else.

What happens to people in your mums position who don't have family who can top up? Surely there will be more and more people like that who aren't in social housing.

Surely the council would have to step in to make sure she wasn't homeless? Could she get an over 55s council sheltered flat for example?

curious79 · 21/02/2025 07:45

I feel very sorry for you. Try and do what you can to find something small. Rents are only going in one direction at the moment and that is up. I am a landlord and make a big effort to ensure places are nice and well kept but we are now selling a property as we have decided we will get a better return by putting that money in a fund. The agent said the rents are going through the roof as a lot of landlords are getting out of the market because of labourers proposals around rent reform but the demand is still there. Sadly, we are an overcrowded island

DaphneduM · 21/02/2025 07:46

EdithBond · 21/02/2025 07:40

Could you explain how pensioners pay income tax. Do you mean on interest payments from savings?

And lots of pensioners who rent get nothing paid by the state, other than the state pension they’ve paid into. They live off their professional pension.

Of course pensioners pay income tax if you have income over the personal allowance. While the state pension is under the tax threshold, any income from both workplace, private pensions is taxable - so if effect if you've been responsible then of course you're paying income tax and contributing to society in this way. Income over £1000 from savings is also taxable. Obviously this is from savings not sheltered in cash isas. Both my husband and I are pensioners and both of us pay considerable amounts of income tax, which we're absolutely not complaining about by the way. We have a comfortable life and have helped out our kids considerably.

Sorry if I was unclear, when I referred to pensioners who are renting, I mean the ones who are on state pension only get everything paid for. There are many of my generation that never paid into a workplace pension, so do indeed get their rent and also a considerable amount of their council tax paid.

Bryonyberries · 21/02/2025 07:48

On my income I can only get a mortgage for about £80k. Even up north there aren’t any properties that low that aren’t doer uppers.

EdithBond · 21/02/2025 07:49

TipsyCoralOtter · 21/02/2025 07:36

Out of curiosity, what happens if your adult DC decides to move in with a romantic partner and doesn't want to live with you anymore? I have friends in the same position and I'm the same age as their DC, and I always think about what happens when the DC wants more independence.

I’ll get a smaller place if they’re all sorted.

But multi generational living, as many previous generations have done, means you can all live in a bigger place and help each other out, e.g. with childcare. My DC are independent now. I live in my bedroom and they use the rest of the place. Depends how easy going you are and how well you get on.

ToutesetBonne · 21/02/2025 07:49

rivalsbinge · 19/02/2025 06:09

We rented until our 40s and the only way we bought was with inheritance. Also in the south east.

Otherwise we'd still be renting, my mum in her 80s is renting and it's a bloody nightmare as she only on just above state pension and we are having to massively top up, with no end to the rent going up and up as she ages.

So I'd be doing anything I could in your position to save and buy for old age if nothing else.

I may be able to help (work for a housing charity). Do DM if you'd like to explore this.

Standingforever · 21/02/2025 07:53

Tumbleweed101 · 19/02/2025 07:23

I rent a council property and as a single parent to four on a low income I’ve never had the means to buy. It’s unlikely at nearly 50 I will be able to buy in the future. Even if I could afford the mortgage payments I would struggle with having enough in savings to afford maintenance and repairs.

Im not really sure what I can do at this point except carry on renting here and hope I get a bit of help with it once I retire. I don’t have any private pensions, just the NEST one. I’ve never had spare income to put into a private one.

You have secure housing in a council property though. Surely your rent is also at a level that housing benefit will cover it, if your income is low.

Its people in the private rented sector who are in trouble as they don’t have these two securities.

Miyagi99 · 21/02/2025 07:57

maximalistmaximus · 19/02/2025 13:23

I feel that one of the most unfair aspects of our welfare state is that people who made the sacrifices to save for a deposit to buy a flat or house will then later have to pay more tax to pay the housing costs of those who chose to rent.

There are people on this thread bragging about how well off they are atm renting but they'll have their hands outstretched to the rest of us when they retire.

It makes me rage!

But people have the right to rent if they want, in many countries that’s the norm. Just because you rent doesn’t mean you’ll have more benefits later on, I have a good income and a good pension so doubt I’d get any help, I private rent.

Finallybackinbootcuts · 21/02/2025 07:58

I’ve already got all the inheritance I’m going to get so I’ll just have to keep saving. My pension will be pretty good and if I have savings to I should be alright even if I have no clue what I’m actually going to do.

I’d like to keep renting ideally as CBA maintaining a house (something that won’t be any easier when elderly I’m guessing). May have to move somewhere cheaper though.

Vickyvogue25 · 21/02/2025 07:59

Sorry if I was unclear, when I referred to pensioners who are renting, I mean the ones who are on state pension only get everything paid for.

But will this still be the case going forward? Or will it only be those on pension credit who get everything paid for?

The PC changes mean that it is only paid if you earn 218/week or less - full state pension from 2016 is already above this, so anyone with a full state pension entitlement going forward is no longer eligible for PC.

ChevronShoes · 21/02/2025 08:03

Vickyvogue25 · 21/02/2025 07:59

Sorry if I was unclear, when I referred to pensioners who are renting, I mean the ones who are on state pension only get everything paid for.

But will this still be the case going forward? Or will it only be those on pension credit who get everything paid for?

The PC changes mean that it is only paid if you earn 218/week or less - full state pension from 2016 is already above this, so anyone with a full state pension entitlement going forward is no longer eligible for PC.

I think HB is tapered, so above that level you still get some

EdithBond · 21/02/2025 08:05

Miyagi99 · 21/02/2025 07:57

But people have the right to rent if they want, in many countries that’s the norm. Just because you rent doesn’t mean you’ll have more benefits later on, I have a good income and a good pension so doubt I’d get any help, I private rent.

100%. I also remember in the past people having their ‘hands outstretched’ when interest rates went through the roof, the property market crashed and their homes got repossessed, leaving them tens of thousands in debt and credit blacklisted.

Smug owner occupier never a good look.

DaphneduM · 21/02/2025 08:07

@Vickyvogue25 It's unclear, isn't it, as to what will happen in the future? Certainly with Rachel Reeves talking tough about revising the whole structure of benefits, then who knows? With the introduction of auto-enrolment for private pensions savings, it's only the current generation with no private pensions that qualify for such extensive help. However, surely the Government will have to provide some benefits for future pensioners who are renting, but on a fairly low income even with a small private pension- you can't have them all homeless.

MrsPeregrine · 21/02/2025 08:08

I am genuinely worried about the future for young people in this country and this is just one of the reasons. What hope do the children of today have if they don’t have a rich relative or some inheritance? I think by the time they grow up it will be virtually impossible for most of them to get on the housing ladder.

We can’t just build our way out of this problem. Other factors are at play and the government needs to sort it out. Short term lets in places like Cornwall for example. I think they should be banned or policies put in place to drastically reduce the numbers of them such as a much a higher Council tax.

Second home ownership is another issue. No one needs more than one home. And I don’t think that people from overseas - and by that I don’t mean people who have moved here from overseas , but people who don’t live in the uk but buy property in places like London as an investment (especially venture capitalist companies) should be allowed to buy British homes.

1975wasthebest · 21/02/2025 08:10

Justsomethoughts23 · 21/02/2025 04:16

I’m sure most people would ideally live in a house but the people on this thread are not really in a position to be picky - none of this is “ideal”.

But again, shared ownership is a way for someone like me to get a house, and I'm sure some people on this thread.

Jeezitneverends · 21/02/2025 08:10

EdithBond · 21/02/2025 07:40

Could you explain how pensioners pay income tax. Do you mean on interest payments from savings?

And lots of pensioners who rent get nothing paid by the state, other than the state pension they’ve paid into. They live off their professional pension.

That professional pension is what they pay tax on

EdithBond · 21/02/2025 08:26

MrsPeregrine · 21/02/2025 08:08

I am genuinely worried about the future for young people in this country and this is just one of the reasons. What hope do the children of today have if they don’t have a rich relative or some inheritance? I think by the time they grow up it will be virtually impossible for most of them to get on the housing ladder.

We can’t just build our way out of this problem. Other factors are at play and the government needs to sort it out. Short term lets in places like Cornwall for example. I think they should be banned or policies put in place to drastically reduce the numbers of them such as a much a higher Council tax.

Second home ownership is another issue. No one needs more than one home. And I don’t think that people from overseas - and by that I don’t mean people who have moved here from overseas , but people who don’t live in the uk but buy property in places like London as an investment (especially venture capitalist companies) should be allowed to buy British homes.

Edited

100% agree.

Though we can build our way out of it if we build decent council housing. It’s how we did before. Having the option of a decent council home means fewer people looking to buy or private rent, which brings down house prices. That’s what needs to happen, as private homes (to buy or rent) now unaffordable on an average income in many areas without inherited wealth.

Some councils now looking to restrict holiday lets via planning change of use requirements. Or much higher council tax on second homes. Believe Cornwall charging 100% council tax on second homes from 1 April.

welshmercury · 21/02/2025 08:33

MotherFlumper · 19/02/2025 12:56

I am 50. I was a home owner (mortgaged) but I made a number of very stupid decisions when I divorced and ended up renting again in 2010 at the age of 35.

Since then I have privately rented in the East Midlands and the monthly rent for a two bed flat (for example) has gone up from around £550.00 pcm in 2018/2019 to about £900pcm if you wanted to rent the same flat now.

It also looks as though landlords are selling up, because of various reasons, and therefore there are fewer properties available to rent in my area for a price I can afford. I know the law is being changed to abolish no fault evictions but private renting still feels unsafe and unstable - to me anyway.

I decided to go for a shared ownership house when a new development was built in my town. There are no service charges and the road is being adopted by the local authority, which I understand can be unusual for new builds these days.

I paid a tiny deposit of just under £3k, I have a small mortgage of around £48,000 which represents my 25% share and I rent the other share from a HA at £360.00 pcm.

My mortgage is over 16 years but I am overpaying every month, even if this is only £50.00 to try and get the term down.

I know I will still be paying rent in my dotage but this is less than I would be paying if I was still renting in the private sector. And at least I can decorate and make it my own. There is only me and my two lovely kittens so I don't need a massive place to live. It is two bedrooms with a decent dining kitchen and a driveway for two cars and quite a big garden.

My choices were renting (privately) or renting (shared ownership). I know shared ownership gets a bad press but I don't have another option. I will never inherit so the only way I would ever be able to buy a whole house would be if I won the lottery. There is obviously more chance of platting fog than there is of me winning enough money to buy a house so I went with the least bad option.

We are shared ownership and long term it is bad and becomes unaffordable housing. They have increased the rent every year by the maximum. Last year due to inflation, they raised it by 9.4% but my wages didn’t increase by that. Our rent was £350 but is now £650 over 10 years and I’m dreading what the increase will be this year. We can’t afford to buy more shares as there are so many costs imposed by housing association.

just watch out for rent increases.

Startinganew32 · 21/02/2025 08:35

maximalistmaximus · 19/02/2025 13:23

I feel that one of the most unfair aspects of our welfare state is that people who made the sacrifices to save for a deposit to buy a flat or house will then later have to pay more tax to pay the housing costs of those who chose to rent.

There are people on this thread bragging about how well off they are atm renting but they'll have their hands outstretched to the rest of us when they retire.

It makes me rage!

Oh fuck off. I’d say it’s equally “unfair” for people who own to get huge windfalls from property increases, far exceeding what they paid for it in the first place. My mum has made £400,000 on her house since she bought it so to begrudge someone help when they’ve not had the opportunity to have something like that is twattish to the extreme.