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I think my partner has cheated on me

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Starsandsparkles112 · 18/02/2025 16:36

We have been together 4 years. A couple months ago she had a go at me for going out with my friends and ended the relationship. I was really confused but in the end we worked it out and got back together.
Looking back at the period of time she told me she had a uti and had never had one before which I thought was odd because I thought a common way to get one was through sex. We had not slept together for almost 2 weeks before she told me this. Then a few days later she picked a fight with me and then ended the relationship.
Looking back there has been a few other things that have made me think such as her always saying " you'd never cheat on me would you" I also saw a random number pop on her phone, the icon was a guy. I couldn't see the message as she has WhatsApp messages hidden from the lock screen.
She wants to go out with her friend for drinks in the city alot too and I know this particular friend cheats on her husband.
I'm an idiot aren't I. I feel like things are clicking and I'm looking at it all.
I've never doubted her before, always been trusting and reassuring to her. Never given her any reason to doubt me either but I feel she's made a fool of me.

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Starsandsparkles112 · 18/02/2025 17:07

Do you think she's cheating? We are a same sex couple btw. Don't want to drip feed

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ChaosAndToast · 18/02/2025 17:11

I mean I don't think the UTI would concern me because you can get them from others things besides sex even if she's not had one before.

Even if she hasn't cheated the relationship, or at least her from what you're saying is really toxic - breaking up with you multiple times etc I think I'd just end it anyway.

You deserve better.

Starsandsparkles112 · 18/02/2025 18:25

ChaosAndToast · 18/02/2025 17:11

I mean I don't think the UTI would concern me because you can get them from others things besides sex even if she's not had one before.

Even if she hasn't cheated the relationship, or at least her from what you're saying is really toxic - breaking up with you multiple times etc I think I'd just end it anyway.

You deserve better.

Thanks, I do want to leave because I don't think it's a healthy relationship. I'd just be so disappointed if she's cheated considering she's said to me so many times about me cheating on her. I don't flirt with anyone or give her any reason to think this!

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JimHalpertsWife · 20/02/2025 12:27

Best all round for you own mental health to just walk away, I'd say. You know it's not a healthy dynamic, so trying to understand her actions and motives will benefit you zero - or possibly even eat further away at you.

Starsandsparkles112 · 20/02/2025 16:57

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Well yea, she picked a fight that I went out with them. But I feel she did this maybe as she did something herself

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