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How do you know if your marriage is worth fighting for ?

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SatayStay · 18/02/2025 10:09

Just as the title suggests really.

How do you know your marriage is worth fighting for, working at it again.

We've had so many ups and downs. I feel emotionally exhausted of it all. I feel like we go round in round in circles and nothing ever really changes but the hurt and resentment just slowly builds up over time with each difficult time.

We are quite different in how we deal with issues and that doesn't help either. Admittedly, it is most definitely me that is most unhappy and wants change. I want to work towards things, plan, make changes, grow our marriage. DH is in his own world and is happy doing his own thing whereas I want someone more present ans involved in our relationship and family life. He seems to think living alongside us doing his own thing is just fine.

Obviously, there are a myriad of areas in our marriage that need work and like I said there have been some really nice times that I will cherish but after being with someone for so long, I feel the steam has ran out.

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JumpingGreenFrogs · 18/02/2025 11:04

Your post reads like you want him to change. The only person you can change is yourself. It sounds as though he’s the person he’s always been, which presumably initially attracted you.

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