Cant shake off this feeling that something may have happened!!

[Sarakmeil]

Hi,

I have a two month old and yesterday a relative was playfully jiggling him from side to side, whole on his playfully mat. However, his head was shaking in the process and I'm scared it may gave cause damage. He was gogglying and seemed to enjoy it, but it happened a few more times unrill I asked my husband ( who this relative is his uncle) to say something.

Am i being paranoid!! Baby seems happy

I think if it was enough to cause damage, your baby would be showing signs, I.e being upset. Although, molecular brain damage can happen without signs. This is unlikely to even be detectable. Similar to footballers doing small amounts of damage each time they hit their head/ head a ball. I wouldn't worry. Just try to keep head bangs/ shaking to a minimum with your baby.

You do not need to ask you husband to speak to a family member when you are unhappy with how your baby is being handled or interacted with.

you are the mother.
you are your child’s advocate.

I know, but I have severe anxiety when it comes to possible confrontation and arguments, which is something I'm working on atm. 🙁

Your baby will be fine OP. But work on your ability to step up and protect your child fast.

I would think if something was wrong your baby would show it by being upset or fussy. I agree with the others you do need to work on being more assertive and protecting your child as that's extremely important. If anybody does anything unacceptable you need to be able to step in right away. You say you are working on your severe anxiety so hopefully you are able to do this in a course time.

Jiggling won't have harmed your baby op, playful jiggling is abit different to viciously shaking a baby

I don’t think any damage will be done from playfully jiggling about, but if you’re uncomfortable it’s fine to ask them to stop. It doesn’t have to be a big confrontation, just, “gentle, he’s still only little” or even “I’m just going to take him for a quick nappy change”

Yeah this

Thank you everyone!

This has helped put my mind at ease 😌