So today I got a call from my child's school, from the deputy head.
My ds (12) - never been in any trouble before - today had an altercation with one of friends. He'd pushed my son out of the lunch queue and when my son went back into the queue went on telling him he'd pushed in and pushing him out again. My son got upset and in the words of the head who saw the incident "was dis-regulated" and ended up biting the other child.
I'm absolutely mortified. He's literally, never even as a toddler bit someone or even got in any kind of trouble at school.
School have talked to the other child's parents and the child and obviously spoken to my ds and helped him to write an apology letter to the other child. They are also going to sit the two boys together tomorrow and senco/deputy head will talk to Ds too.
I've talked to him when he came home and he's so upset about it, regrets it, wished he'd never did it and even that he'd ran to the lunch queue in the first place. I've told him it's never ok to react like he did - regardless of anything the other child did. He says he doesn't know what happened, he'd got upset at the other boy and it's obviously escalated.
As a family we are going through a bit right now - again no excuse - I don't know what else I should be doing or how to handle the situation.
I obviously want to support him emotionally but also I know he needs to understand it's not right.
As I said, him and the other boy are friends and hang out/play together at school and online - they've had fallings out before. Should I tell him not to hang with this friend anymore? Or does that make it worse. Do I just leave it to school?
We both feel just awful
Thx in advance