Would you wear a black Lacey dress to a wedding ?

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So it’s full sleeved, knee length
the body part is opaque

No, it's seen as a bit rude to wear black.

Op black is absolutely fine nowadays, google black wedding guest dresses - loads of articles and ASOS, Karen millen, Next etc have sections specifically for them.

The black and lace aspects sound fine. The opaque top might be a bit revealing depending on exactly what you mean by that.

White/cream are the only real ones to avoid. Black, red, green and whatever other colours people insist are horrifyingly unacceptable are just silly fussiness.

This was the dress I wore.
Nothing but compliments.

Yeah

Im dont buy into the "must wear colours to a wedding " bullshit

I wouldn't as black tends to be more evening dress appropriate whereas weddings are for daytime attire usually (unless the dress code is black tie etc).

Depends on the style of wedding and what the bride thinks. The dress sounds nice for a more fancy wedding, not so much for a casual barn/pub/village hall party.

I wore black to a wedding, got first cold feet and wore something different until the bride actually told me to go and change - I did.

One of the guests at my wedding wore black, I didn't even think about it, I don't care.

By default, no. If it's a formal "evening wear" type dress code then possibly, but only after checking with the bride.

No.

The day should always be about the couple getting married and nothing else should stand out.

Black lace would never be wedding-material to me unless there is a gothic theme...

Not for a day invite.

A autumn/winter wedding, I would consider black but not for a spring/summer wedding. Unless of course the bride/groom have a dress/colour code - for example black tie. For spring/summer, black is too dark.

Yes, I would

Black, yes. Lace, no.

I'm totally against all the self indulgent ott behaviour surrounding weddings but honestly, isn't the day supposed to be about the bride and groom?
If guests are going out of their way to dress in such a way that the other guests are complimenting them then isn't that a bit disrespectful to the couple getting married ? The guests aren't supposed to be the focus of attention.

Evening-yes. Day-no.

Friends complimenting each other on what they are wearing as guests, to each other, in private conversation is hardly taking any attention away from the bride.

People tend to dress nicely for a wedding. If I turned up and saw a friend in a nice dress I might well compliment her. It wouldn't mean she had dressed in a way designed to solicit compliments or that that was in any way inappropriate.

I would in winter but not for spring/summer wedding.

No

Have you never had anyone say "love your dress/nice dress/you look lovely" at a wedding? Or never said it to anyone else?

Anyone who gets a compliment has done it deliberately to disrespect the bride and groom?

I pretty much always wear black, including to weddings. I have checked with brides in advance and none of them have ever minded. One of my friends said ‘Of course! If you wore any other colour it wouldn’t feel like you were there!’

My niece got married in 2023 and was baffled that anyone would worry about what colours their wedding guests wore at all.

Mumsnet seems to have a very dated view of weddings in general.

Sorry, what? This is a mad take.

I wore all black to a winter wedding. Wore it with a g

Surely it's normal for every one to try to look nice for the wedding ?
So why the need to go round telling each other Ooh you look nice?
Why the need to validate each other ?

It's not a requirement to say "you like nice". It is however entirely normal conversation.

Posted too soon - wore it with a gold shimmery wrap and black and gold shoes two tone shoes. Also wore chunky gold jewellery. I see lots of people wearing little black dresses to weddings.