What can I do right now to help with my depression ?

[LittleStepzz]

Since over a week ago, I have been depressed. I didn't really realise it till just now, which is why I've started this thread.

Basically a combination of the perfect storm with an argument with DH last weekend has just triggered it. I've been feeling awful since then. I cried a good few times last weekend but I'm not tearful anymore but I am barely functioning. I go to work and then crash out. I've cooked probably around 4 times since then and have been giving the kids take aways and noodles or fish fingers etc. They are fed and have everything but I am just in bed wasting my time on SM or sleeping. I am being a crap mother

I have so much to do and no motivation. Today I made a big brunch for me and the kids and then played with my 6yr old for 30 mins before getting into bed and falling asleep. I have just woken up now and feel disgusted with myself. I can't get out of bed but know that I have to before I go down a slippery slope.

Please please tell me what I can do right now that can help.

Well done, sounds perfect.

I find if I reframe it for the kids I don't feel so bad when I just physically can't move from the sofa through depression. My little one loves a 'pyjama day' so we'll talk about how cosy it is to have a pj day in this cold weather. How we love cups of tea, or hot chocolate, and what film can we put on?! I force myself to have a genuine smile, and a bit of a sing song tone to my voice,

I know this isn't helping with how to raise your mood as such. But I find if I make it tolerable while i just wait and ride it out, I don't feel so guilty. It wasn't lost time in the end, even if the hoovering wasn't done - it was time with lots of love given xx

Thank you so much. I'm so so glad I posted.

We popped into a local shop and got a few bits and we were near one of dds friends house and went there and gave them some biscuits and things we'd bought..The mum doesn't speak English very well and although I do speak her language, it's very broken but we managed to communicate somehow! She is lovely and is always telling us to visit. We had tea and laughed and I actually had a lovely time!

I feel like a different person to the one that left. However, I did get a surge of dread as I walked through the door but I am determined to beat this bastarding feeling. I feel I'm fighting something inside my head.

Every time I feel like staying in bed, not getting dressed, not showering etc and a feeling apathy overcomes me, I'm going to say my mantra:

"Fuck you, depression."
And DH too.

Well done! Perhaps make a list on notes on your phone that reminds you what has worked for you today. Getting out of the house, a little company &a little treat then perhaps you can refer back to it when you are feeling like that again.

I have such a list and it has really helped over the years. TKMax for a candle/nice glass/plate features on mine along with, cleaning a small area of the house and lighting a candle, shower and fresh pjs, ice cream with sprinkles for us all, researching a new album online and listening to it, walk to the sweet shop for me and the kids, everyone piles on our bed for a film, drive thru in pjs for desserts/milkshakes

I mean this kindly, but if your husband isn't talking to you, do you think this is abusive? Might you have a husband problem?

I have suffered with depression . This is what helps me. Practicing gratitude daily . Write down the good things in your life that you are grateful for. However small. Salt bath ( magnesium helps relax you ) watch your favourite comfort tv . Mine would be motherlands/ amandaland . Good quality dark chocolate.

Absolutely, I am so so fed up of my crap marriage. I have dealt with his selfishness and moody childish behaviour for too long. Before id have apologised and think it was me that was being the arsehole for making him behave that way towards me. So in this instance, I'd have blamed myself for bringing up the issue and learnt to not raise it up again.

It's been over a week now and I'd have apologised to make up but feel crap that the issues weren't dealt with. Over the years I have improved my self esteem and the veil has lifted albeit too late but I understand now, that if he doesn't want to talk about it, that's up to him. I did approach him the next day to talk about it and his reaction was to not talk about it again and I think he thinks I'm just going to carry on being okay.