Would you have second hand wedding rings?

[WhatTheKey]

DP and I will be tying the knot soon in a very small, very unfussy, very "us" ceremony. We won't be dressing up or buying any one-off items for the day- We prefer second-hand stuff generally, and really like buying our clothes/furniture/stuff from charity shops or junk shops.

I've been thinking about rings. Somehow, it feels a bit strange to think about wearing wedding rings that have previously belonged to others- they're such a symbolic item, and obviously, we wouldn't know if they came from happy marriages or not. It is unlike me to think this way!

I wonder if anyone has any thoughts on this?

A simple gold band wedding ring? I'd want that to be new. I would imagine someone died wearing their wedding ring, if the marriage was long and happy. I wouldn't really like the idea of that.

My wedding ring is 18ct with diamonds from the 1920s and my engagement ring is 18ct with a stunning garnet and diamonds from the 1960s and both look stunning. Nothing wrong with giving new life to rings.

We have second hand wedding rings. I arranged our wedding in just a month due to my mother's terminal illness (I wanted to get married before she died). I was spending most of my time with her and there was a local jeweller we both like that sells second hand jewellery, so we nipped in there when I had a spare half hour and chose our wedding rings. No regrets at all. (About the rings or the marriage! 😁)

Our rings are made up of the melted-down gold from DHs parent's wedding rings plus a couple of other items of gold. They had a very happy marriage so we thought it was nice to have ours made from their rings.

Thanks all for replying! I think my head/heart is a bit muddled on this one because I've been married before, and I used my mother's wedding ring as my ring. She had not long died and I wanted a piece of her near me always- but my parents' marriage had ended unhappily, as did my first marriage. I still have my mother's wedding ring in a box, and it feels a bit weird to me that something that was always so familiar on her finger is unused.

I really like the comment that gold has been melted down many times and reformed, and all of it has a history in that way. It's really helping to reframe this in my mind! Also, I think that we're essentially "tread lightly upon the earth" type people, so the thought of buying new when not necessary isn't really us...

Have a look at local jewellery makers, we did a workshop to make our own rings, and it was possible to use the metal from an old ring if you wanted, gold or silver. I love that he made my ring, it's so much more special because of that. The day was fun too, we learned lots, and it added a human and personal element to what is usually just a retail transaction. We tread as lightly as we can, and it was the perfect solution for us.

I wanted antique rings as I love vintage anything, especially jewellery. My engagement ring is Victorian and my wedding ring is 1930s. Got much more beautiful rings for our budget and I love them and the idea of their history.

Dh's ring is new, though, because he wasn't bothered and we needed to stick to a budget. Couldn't find anything vintage that was affordable in his size.

I bought a secondhand engagement ring in 1985 for £130 just because I loved it, and still love it, more than the £19 new wedding ring from Ratners!

Like finding a lovely ring at an antique store/auction? Or a family one? Sure I'd go for it.
My DH passed away years ago and I wear his wedding ring. I've told my son he can have it when he gets married if he wants (it's platinum so he may prefer gold). My mother's ring is lovely but not my style at all. My sister adores it and would have it as her ring (not married at the moment).