To find people fairly appalling............

ginislife · 2025-02-14T08:42:40+00:00

that they don't even realise that someone they are friends with on Facebook died about 10 years ago !! Have they not ever noticed that a) she's not posted in all that time and b) people have posted in that time things like "forever missed", "miss our chats" It would have been her birthday today and I see someone actually posted last year "sorry I missed it. Hope you had a lovely day" I wanted to comment saying she's freakin dead you loon and I ain't sure they have lovely days wherever she now is !

Whatisthisbs · 14/02/2025 08:53

Oh God yes. Very close friend of mine died a few years ago now. His FB page was full of condolences, people who had written statuses and tagged him etc. And still, 5 years later, he still gets people wishing him happy birthday. 😑

SallyWD · 14/02/2025 09:43

I don't think it's that bad. Facebook is so odd now that I rarely see a lot of my friends' posts. There are a few people who appear on my timeline but many friends never appear. I have to actually search them up and then I see they've been posting every day. It's easy to imagine that people go on to Facebook now and then and don't see anything from the deceased person's timeline.

CreationNat1on · 14/02/2025 09:45

Why not report it toFB that the person is RIP .

I can't stand FB in general, it's dead to me.

ComtesseDeSpair · 14/02/2025 09:49

I have quite a few former colleagues as Facebook friends, people who I once knew well and saw daily etc, then only met with infrequently after we stopped being colleagues, then one of us moved away and meetings stopped entirely. I can feasibly imagine that one of them may have died and I’d never find out about it, because how many of us are really actively thinking about Sarah from work from ten years ago and whether we’ve seen her post anything recently? That’s just how social media is - it’s not a small group of your five best friends whose business you’re all up in.

Doingmybest12 · 14/02/2025 09:49

Do some people post a happy birthday even when they know, I assumed that this was the case. In memorandum.

TabloidFootprints · 14/02/2025 09:52

ComtesseDeSpair · 14/02/2025 09:49

I have quite a few former colleagues as Facebook friends, people who I once knew well and saw daily etc, then only met with infrequently after we stopped being colleagues, then one of us moved away and meetings stopped entirely. I can feasibly imagine that one of them may have died and I’d never find out about it, because how many of us are really actively thinking about Sarah from work from ten years ago and whether we’ve seen her post anything recently? That’s just how social media is - it’s not a small group of your five best friends whose business you’re all up in.

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But in that case why would you post "happy birthday"?

BlondiePortz · 14/02/2025 09:54

TabloidFootprints · 14/02/2025 09:52

But in that case why would you post "happy birthday"?

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Yes it seems odd to me but not everyone acts exactly the same way as the next person

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 14/02/2025 09:54

I think part of the problem is that Facebook just puts 'Today is xxxxx birthday' with a list of people. There is no sign on the prompt that that person might be deceased and a lot of people just press the button that puts up an automatic Happy Birthday message, they don't even type it in.

Would be useful if Facebook could mark pages somehow as 'deceased' rather than just prompting you it's their birthday.

ComtesseDeSpair · 14/02/2025 09:55

TabloidFootprints · 14/02/2025 09:52

But in that case why would you post "happy birthday"?

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I personally don’t, to anyone living or dead, but plenty of people do it presumably as just a nice gesture when they notice it’s somebody’s birthday. I doubt they’re thinking anything beyond assuming Sarah is alive and that she’d probably like to receive birthday wishes.

Bubbleplumb · 14/02/2025 10:22

I know my FB just has a list of peoples birthdays and you click a button that sends an automatic Happy Birthday message. There are so many random people on my FB, I don't keep track on who posts regularly or not. Just an oversight I would imagine

Shubbypubby · 14/02/2025 10:30

I want my Facebook closing down when I'm dead. I don't want it lingering around like an omnipresent digital ghost.

SunsetCocktails · 14/02/2025 10:47

Shubbypubby · 14/02/2025 10:30

I want my Facebook closing down when I'm dead. I don't want it lingering around like an omnipresent digital ghost.

I have a few Facebook friends who are now dead, their accounts are still live because their relatives don't know their password to close it down. I keep the accounts as friends because sometimes people post nice messages to remember them, and sometimes it's nice to look back on pictures and reminisce.

Changingplace · 14/02/2025 10:58

SunsetCocktails · 14/02/2025 10:47

I have a few Facebook friends who are now dead, their accounts are still live because their relatives don't know their password to close it down. I keep the accounts as friends because sometimes people post nice messages to remember them, and sometimes it's nice to look back on pictures and reminisce.

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You can still close it down, you don’t need the password, I did it for my mums account.

You can either request it’s deleted or changed to a memorial account, via customer services.

CheeseNPickle3 · 14/02/2025 11:12

I guess it's just the automatic "so and so's birthday" things they're responding to.

If you have the password you can just delete it yourself or you can get Facebook to delete/memorialise if you don't have the password. You need to send them some proof of death like a death certificate though (or it could be done maliciously).

Fifthtimelucky · 14/02/2025 12:45

Linked in is just as bad.

I noticed a year or so that someone I knew had died. There were lots of messages below from people congratulating him on his new job.

DustyMaiden · 14/02/2025 12:48

It was my DB birthday yesterday. The people that posted were at his funeral, so I presume they realise he’s dead.