Bad day want to vent have no one I can in real life

[Stephyx]

Just having a bad day. It started with work and I’ve recently returned from maternity leave with youngest, started about 2 months ago but it’s a completely new role and I feel like with 2 young kids I have no brain anyway so it just feels like info is going in and not sticking. I felt embarrassed on a call. That was this morning.

then it’s just played on my mind all day. I also really miss my kids. They go to nursery 3 days, I’m part time so do 3 days. I’m lucky my work is flexible and I can do this. I just feel like a bad mum for those days because they’re at nursery then I get them home and it’s food bath bedtime it all feels rushed and thhat we only get snippets of quality quality time if that makes sense? On those evenings. We spend all evening together but I mean inbetween the cooking the tidying the bathing the teeth brushing etc it just goes fast and I feel so bad :( my partner works late so can only help with the end of the bedtime routine

I'm sorry OP! The balancing act of work/kids is no joke. Totally get what you mean about not having a brain - 2 days after I returned from Mat leave I was in a meeting with my new boss, had to introduce him to a client and forgot his name 😂

Hope you feel better soon x

Aw I feel you. I’ve recently gone back to work 3.5 days a week and I feel like my brain is just totally useless too. Are you at the same company as before or is it all new? Teething problems, you’ll get the hang of things, just might take longer with the baby brain.

I tell myself 3 days work is perfect as you still have the majority of the time with the family in theory. The kids will be having lots of fun at nursery (I have one at nursery and 2 at school so now have to go to after school club). I’m finding (5 month in) that my family time is of a better quality now that I am working, and it’s nice to be uninterrupted and focused at work. At home I have to do a minimum of 3 things at a time it seems!

That's what mumsnet is for girl 💕

Sorry you've had a bad day. I completely understand mum brain, I've got it too and I'm not working and I've only got one! You're doing amazingly to be back and functioning, even if it isn't perfect

I bet the people in the meeting didn't give it a second thought. And even if they did, how many of them are in your shoes!

As long as the kids are happy, you're doing okay. And I'm sure they love their little routine. Even if you think you're not doing anything amazing, their best memories can be the things we don't pay any mind to/feel bad about xx

Thanks :( it’s hard people on my team have older kids or no kids I feel so alone with the younger kids! (3yo and 1yo) they like to meet up (we’re based around the Uk) for drinks and day meetings face to face but the locations aren’t close to me I get so anxious when they mention it I don’t want to flake but I can’t leave the kids overnight they want me if they wake up in the middle of the night and I get it my partner used to work away so nights have predominantly been me

so i just feel very alone

I hope they like it I feel so awful and like I barely see them when I was on mat leave DS had to stay in nursery to keep his place for my return to work but I’d pick him up earlier etc be more flexible. I can’t now it’s so tough

i just want to be the best mum ever and don’t feel like I am when I have to rush around in the mornings and then of an evening it’s only a short window before bed times and get ready for the next day

But it is nice to know even though.i feel alone I’m not <3