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Feeling sad about my adopted country

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Ilovegermany · 13/02/2025 18:29

Yet again, people run down by a car in Germany. He overtook the police car at the back of the demonstration.

https://www.bbc.com/news/live/cd9x22dj423t

The Germans I know are so sad about this but they are also fed up that it is people that aren’t German that are doing things. It’s like the feeling in the UK before the Brexit vote (something I couldn’t vote on when it impacted me, as I had been out of the country too long), that immigrants are making things bad in the country.
However, I think this is worse than Brexit. There is a general election here in 10 days. This is going to sway the vote so much. I’m scared that this country will vote for the AfD now. I don’t know how this will change things for me - will they change the law that I can no longer have German citizenship, which I have already applied for and am waiting for it to come through.
I cannot vote and I hear friends and acquaintances saying they are fed up with all the foreigners. I point out that I’m a foreigner too, they say I’m not, because I work and contribute to society and that I am European too and Brexit was a big mistake.

Munich latest: Driver in suspected car ramming attack in Munich was Afghan asylum seeker, officials say

At least 28 people were injured, some of them seriously, when the car hit a trade union rally in the city centre.

https://www.bbc.com/news/live/cd9x22dj423t

OP posts:
Summerhillsquare · 13/02/2025 19:55

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 13/02/2025 18:49

Similar story in France. Every few months there's some horrible rape/murder that hits the headlines and it's almost always a foreign national who's already been ordered to leave France who has done it.

Have you been asleep for the last month?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 13/02/2025 20:05

Summerhillsquare · 13/02/2025 19:55

Have you been asleep for the last month?

No, HTH.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 13/02/2025 20:06

Sixpence39 · 13/02/2025 19:51

No, not by strangers - by their husbands, dads and acquaintances.

Sadly those are a lot less newsworthy.

Jane958 · 13/02/2025 20:11

I have lived in Germany since 1988.
These incidents are happening more frequently, but you need to understand that the last language I hear, when I go into my nearest large town/city, is German.
Make of that what you will.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 13/02/2025 20:11

Sixpence39 · 13/02/2025 19:50

I was referring to the pp point about raping and killing, which white men do every day. Driving a car yes, when a white man did it in London it did make the news. But nobody made generalisations.

I think that when you move to another country you have a moral obligation to treat that country and its citizens well. If a native of the country in question commits a terrible crime, well, yes it's terrible but that person shouldn't be any other country's problem. And maybe it merits some self reflection about whether that person could have been prevented from doing what they did by better education/social services/mental health support. Because a lot of things that shouldn't happen need to have happened in order for someone who was once an innocent newborn baby to turn into a cold blooded killer.

But when that person has come from somewhere else, already committed crimes, been ordered to leave the country, not actually been deported, and then gone on to commit even worse crimes, it's not hard to understand why people are thinking, "He shouldn't have been here. And if he hadn't been here my daughter/sister/friend would still be alive and well."

surreywilds · 13/02/2025 20:15

MumblesParty · 13/02/2025 19:35

@Sixpence39 I think if a white German national drove a car into a crowd it would make the news

It wouldn't fit the agenda ( that non-white asylum seekers are rapists and killers.

How much outrage for the Swedish white man that goes on a killing spree, it got a days worth coverage, then nothing. No 'lessons learnt' no 'national inquiry' no soul searching how we got ourselves in this situation.No speech by Farage or tweet by Musk...Nowt.

Fairyliz · 13/02/2025 20:20

cassandre · 13/02/2025 18:57

Actually, maybe not, maybe I reacted too fast. I'm glad that you don't want the AfD to win votes, OP.

I'm just fed up of refugees and asylum seekers being collectively labelled as terrorists. Yes, people who have been through horrific trauma sometimes do horrific things. This doesn't mean it's ethically right to single out asylum seekers for blame, when the vast majority of them are good people who need help.

So how do we root out the bad ones?
Or do we just let people in and accept any deaths as collateral damage?

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 13/02/2025 20:22

wipeywipe · 13/02/2025 19:08

Yes, people who have been through horrific trauma sometimes do horrific things.

Don't make excuses for them.

Oh but she really disgracefully is.

wipeywipe · 13/02/2025 20:26

I'm just fed up of refugees and asylum seekers being collectively labelled as terrorists.

I'm fed up of innocent people & children getting killed & injured by terrorists....

surreywilds · 13/02/2025 20:28

Fairyliz · 13/02/2025 20:20

So how do we root out the bad ones?
Or do we just let people in and accept any deaths as collateral damage?

No it isn't hard to understand.

We don't round up white men because some rape, or some kill people in random mass shootings do we?

How do we root out the bad ones? Fucks sake....

NameChangedOfc · 13/02/2025 21:15

Oodlesandoodlesofnoodles · 13/02/2025 19:28

Yes, people who have been through horrific trauma sometimes do horrific things.

And some people who have been through horrific trauma do not. And some people do horrific things who have not been through horrific trauma.

An issue I have with the left is the way sometimes it’s like nobody except straight, white middle class people are at all morally responsible for their actions. The others are just victims of their circumstances with no autonomy. It actually dehumanises the refugees you are trying to advocate for.

I agree with this, yes. Furthermore, implying that the vast majority of refugees are "good people" goes in the same direction. Is the status of refugee a moral garanty of the "goodness" of an individual? We need to have ethical policies in place to help people fleeing wars and conflict, of course, but we need to see them as fully humans with intrinsical dignity: neither evil sauvages, nor the sacred cast.

That said, I understand and empatize with @cassandre 's feelings about this (very complex) issue.

NameChangedOfc · 13/02/2025 21:18

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 13/02/2025 20:11

I think that when you move to another country you have a moral obligation to treat that country and its citizens well. If a native of the country in question commits a terrible crime, well, yes it's terrible but that person shouldn't be any other country's problem. And maybe it merits some self reflection about whether that person could have been prevented from doing what they did by better education/social services/mental health support. Because a lot of things that shouldn't happen need to have happened in order for someone who was once an innocent newborn baby to turn into a cold blooded killer.

But when that person has come from somewhere else, already committed crimes, been ordered to leave the country, not actually been deported, and then gone on to commit even worse crimes, it's not hard to understand why people are thinking, "He shouldn't have been here. And if he hadn't been here my daughter/sister/friend would still be alive and well."

Very good points

EsmaCannonball · 13/02/2025 21:26

I feel really sorry for Ukraine at the moment, especially so if the AfD get in. It's so frustrating that the failure of mainstream parties to address basic issues and to stick up for the lives of their own voters has allowed the likes of Trump and Reform to steal a march.

HauntedBungalow · 13/02/2025 22:09

EasternStandard · 13/02/2025 19:12

What are you referring to here?

OP. She's not been back has she. Maybe she's off driving cars into people. After all, she's an immigrant in Germany and apparently according to this thread that's what immigrants do.

Abracadabra12345 · 13/02/2025 22:47

IdaGlossop · 13/02/2025 19:21

The anti-immigrant rhetoric across Europe is getting louder. Every time a crime is committed or there is a high-profile act of violence, I find myself hoping that the perpetrator will be a person born in the country in which it occurred so we don't have to listen to the venom some people out. Perverse, I know.

Our invective should be directed at governments, for their failures in not knowing who is living in their respective countries, not knowing where they are living, not being systematic in sending back to their country of origin people whose asylum applications are unsuccessful, who have committed crimes and whose work permits have expired, not cracking down on the employment of people without the right to work, and not facilitating the training of each country's nationals to reduce reliance on immigrant labour. The alarming rise of the right is a consequence of moderate governments not acting 10+ years ago when it was being forecast that mass migration was going to be one of the defining issues of the near future.

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Good post

TheElvesLongSleeves · 14/02/2025 04:31

HauntedBungalow · 13/02/2025 22:09

OP. She's not been back has she. Maybe she's off driving cars into people. After all, she's an immigrant in Germany and apparently according to this thread that's what immigrants do.

Not as funny and smart as you think

inamarina · 14/02/2025 08:15

Sixpence39 · 13/02/2025 19:24

Yes because those are the stories that make headlines. White men are killing and raping women every day but it barely makes a splash.

Are white men driving vans into groups of people too? There were two attacks of that kind in Germany alone, just in the last six months. Not to mention the countless stabbings.
Hardly anyone is saying all refugees are violent, but if you look at the recent cases in Germany (Mannheim, Solingen, Aschaffenburg, Magdeburg, Munich), sadly many random attacks on strangers have been committed by men from particular backgrounds. To ignore it is just disingenuous.

inamarina · 14/02/2025 08:32

surreywilds · 13/02/2025 20:15

It wouldn't fit the agenda ( that non-white asylum seekers are rapists and killers.

How much outrage for the Swedish white man that goes on a killing spree, it got a days worth coverage, then nothing. No 'lessons learnt' no 'national inquiry' no soul searching how we got ourselves in this situation.No speech by Farage or tweet by Musk...Nowt.

Do you really think that if a white man drove his car into a group of people it wouldn’t be reported on because it “wouldn’t fit the narrative”?
The Swedish man who went on a killing spree was on the news. Just like Anders Breivik had been.
I can also imagine that if it attacks committed by, say, Swedish men against immigrants became a regular thing it would definitely be reported on and cause an outrage.

Ilovegermany · 14/02/2025 22:37

So I wasn’t back because I was partaking in that German tradition of Aufguss and left my phone at the Sauna and only just got it back.

Yes I am middle class and white, I only live in Germany because I can no longer afford to buy a house in the country I work in.

I was just commenting on how it makes my white German friends feel and how it scares me for the future of this country, but I also know Syrians and other nationalities that are working hard and trying to make a better life for themselves and their families. Many working in local restaurants, one currently studying to be a nurse. And they all speak more languages than me and learnt German quicker than me because they can go on State funded courses - which I could not because I have a job.

Germany supports immigrants very well and Angela Merkel showed a lot of compassion for people that could not stay in their home country because of war or oppression. But for some reason, when someone is asylum seeking and commits crime the authorities have not been able to deport them. That is where the main problem is.

I haven’t said anything against immigrants because I am one and point this out to my German friends.

It is wrong for anyone, no matter what their skin colour, nationality is to drive into groups of people, but because of where this man came from, I believe it will make the Germans vote differently and that is what scares me.

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TethersMiddle · 15/02/2025 19:43

This is the problem. I'm so angry. There's no need for deaths like this

https://news.sky.com/story/boy-14-dies-after-five-stabbed-in-austria-13310330

MumChp · 15/02/2025 20:13

Jane958 · 13/02/2025 20:11

I have lived in Germany since 1988.
These incidents are happening more frequently, but you need to understand that the last language I hear, when I go into my nearest large town/city, is German.
Make of that what you will.

That's the problem in Germany, France, Sweden and properly many other countries in Europe.
And you are naive if people don't react.

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