Help to get pregnant at 40 and peri

[Snowboardmum73]

Hey,

so after two years and one early loss. I am
still not pregnant. Hormones all over the place…def early peri symptoms. After a year of telling the doctors my periods are seriously heavy - they finally said I become anemic during periods and so my iron is always low…never dangerously low but low enough to make me tired and takes me a whole month to build it back up so I am finally on iron tables. I hope this will help my fertility…periods are regular but heavy, taking pre pregnancy vitamins and have tried acupuncture…eat very healthy…all other tests for vitamins normal…ultra sound was normal…husband is going for a sperm count.

Not told anyone but started to get a bit down with the constant trying, preseed you name it, I have tried it, yoga - swimming - walking…should I cut my losses as feel time is running away…husband will be 50 next year. I don’t know if I can do another two years of being disappointed…esp as I have tried all I can think of.

Do I just say it’s nature making the decision for me? I feel like soon I will have to make a decision as I kind of want to move on if it’s not meant to be and focus on something else.

Can’t get help with IVF as too old and the facility clinic will do a sperm test and that’s it. Unless I go private and some clinics don’t seem to be interested due to our ages, they consider it a waste of money…

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Sorry you're in this situation, OP. Have you had an antral follicle count and your FSH/AMH levels checked?

Have you had the sperm test done? You’re making a lot of assumptions about your own fertility but many 50 year old men don’t have Olympic swimmers any more. It sounds like apart from the iron your results are quite positive. There doesn’t seem to be anything else to indicate infertility.

Have you been checked for endometriosis?

hey, thanks for the responses. I will ask for more test/checks to be done as I had some hormone ones done a while back it came back low for one and then another was fine and I was told not too worry. But that was 6 months ago so I will ask again.

yes, he’s been waiting 6 months for the clinic to do the sperm count but maybe the local doctor would have been quicker. I will ask of his doctor can do it. The NHS local clinic is very busy as it’s the only one in our area and we’re not a priority.

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I'll be blunt, OP.

If you're serious about having children, you need to go private. If you faff about waiting for the NHS to help you, there will be no time left.

You've been trying for two years, which is long enough for it to be safe to assume that either you or your partner or both of you have fertility issues.

Go to a private clinic and have all the tests done. Then when you've got the results, discuss whether you want to have a proper shot at IVF or just accept that it isn't going to happen for you. But make the decision yourself. Don't let NHS inaction make it for you.

Thank you all. I will definitely look at getting some private tests done. Just knowing one way or another, will help me mentally as I can put it down to bad luck it just didn’t happen or it never will…at least I will know. X