We are currently waiting for dd14 draft ehcp to come through. She has recently been diagnosed ASD but hasn't attended mainstream for just over a year and for about a year before that her attendance was still low. At the moment she has 3 hours tuition at home with the medical needs team. She also sees a clinical psycologist via camhs weekly, this is who has suggested mainstream is not ideal for dd. Dd has no behaviour or personal care needs, she has extreme anxiety and incredibly shy.
While waiting for the draft I have been looking at options for her education. She will not attend a unit in a mainstream as she has said she knows how the kids treat sen kids. I also know if I somehow managed to get her there once she wouldn't go again. She wouldn't attend a special school unless I could drive her there (absolutely no way she would go in a taxi herself) while I potentially could, it would disrupt our whole life, I have dd2 to get to school and I also have to work (dh starts work at 5am and not possible to change hours). I already have to move my work hours around so I am able to take her to her camhs appointments and be here for the tuition. It also puts so much stress on me (i know this sounds selfish) trying to get dd to school was exhausting, i was so stressed my hair was falling out and i was becoming unwell. So, the main option I am seeing is sticking with home tuition, I'm not keen on this as again my work is disrupted but also I want her to be able to socialise and become more independent from us. If we take this option there are also social provisions she can attend weekly, which is great, but I still would like to normalise being out of the house every day really.
In the village we live there is a special school, literally 5 minutes walk away, however, it's private. It's around 20k and we just can't afford that. It seems the most perfect school for her, everything she would need. Some of the kids there do half days at the school and then online lessons, she would find it too much to be out the house for a whole school day so this would be perfect. One of her main anxieties is being far away from the home, but as this is so close it should hopefully help with that. She loves walking and it helps control her anxiety, so it would be perfect to start the school day off. I have spoken with her psycologist about this who agrees it's exactly what she would recommend for dd and to contact the school while waiting for the draft. My question is, is it even possible the la could place my dd here as its private? I know it will be a long shot and I would have to put up a fight but I'm willing to do it if there's even the slightest chance they could place her there? Any other setting would just not work and I really don't want to carry on with home tuitio.
I don't know much about the whole process and just winging it really, the school she is enrolled with are no help at all, wouldn't even help us with the ehcp application. We have had to everything ourselves and luckily we have always had the help given, I know there are horror stories with camhs and ehcp process but so far all our requests have been accepted first time.
Sorry this is so long and hopefully it makes sense, but really all I'm asking is it possible for dd to get a place at school like this through the la.
Thanks in advance.