Locked chats on WhatsApp - fuck offfff

[Shera12]

https://faq.whatsapp.com/764072925284841/?cms_platform=web

Worn down by this shit. I’ve recently had my heart smashed up by a cheating spouse. It wrecked everything while he probably laughed about it with his pals. This would have made it so much easier for him, had he known about it. I probably wouldn’t have found out when I did.

I mean I know if someone is going to cheat, then they will do so, and this feature not being available won’t stop them.

But really, do they have to make it so easy for them? Do they have to assist them in the process? I mean what possible other purpose could there be for this? (I’m sure there are some other purposes to be fair, but let’s not pretend it’s not an absolute cheaters charter).

Just making life actively harder (for women in the main, let’s face it).

What? Bollocks.

I hear you op, and I am sorry you’re hurting. I hope every day that passes that hurt is outweighed with being free from the whole situation.

Depends what you use this function for. I hide groups that cause too much noise / drama. It helps me not seeing the group active.

as others have pointed out you have a husband problem not a WhatsApp problem

I like the function. I actually use it to lock conversations I don't want DD seeing e.g. discussing birthday gifts. She likes watching YouTube with me on my phone so the lock feature is actually helpful

People were cheating waaaayyyy before sm. If they removed locked chats it would not change a thing. Cheater want to cheat.

Why do so many of you have sensitive work info on your personal phones? Surely just keep it on your work tech? I too would hate to get work messages on my days off, so I keep the work WhatsApp group on my work phone.

Complete and utter nonsense.

I'm really sorry for your heartache OP, but you know WA having this feature wouldn't have been to blame for it even if your STBX had known about it (you can archive your chats which also makes them invisible in your list of chats so they can't be read unless someone thinks to look at Archived Chats). I don't know how WA marketed the Locked Chats feature, but I can see it could be very useful for people on the receiving end of domestic abuse - they could receive confidential advice from support agencies without their abusive partner knowing (and let's face it, that would benefit women in the main).
Remember to assign the blame where it belongs - at your scumbag, cheating husband, not WA. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other OP, it will get easier. Thinking of you and sending big hugs. 🤗

What about people making plans to flee domestic violence, people who work in confidential settings like the police or NHS, people who are talking with friends or family in potentially contentious relationships?

If your husband wants to shag around, he’s not going to be stopped just because he can’t secretly WhatsApp.

Not everyone has a work phone

This is an incredibly unhealthy attitude. Everyone needs privacy to some degree.

No I don’t agree with this. There is a need for privacy. I wouldn’t expect my husband to pick up and read my phone.

But equally I don’t think things should be actively hidden in a marriage. Not a healthy one, anyway.

Like, I wouldn’t hide the fact that I’m chatting to someone by WhatsApp. But that doesn’t mean I’m ok with him picking up my phone and reading the chat.

Nonsense.

What do you class as a secret though? Do you tell your partner every thought in your head and every personal conversation you've had with anyone? Or is there stuff he doesn't know because it doesn't concern him?

Why would my husband need to know every single thing and interaction i have ever had? And the reverse, Does he need to know who i talk to about TV shows and do I need to know who he talks about football with?

Neither us cheats so why do we have to tell each other every single thing we individually do? how incredibly boring

If someone cheats they have a partner problem not an app one

How does not hiding anything = telling him every single thing and interaction you’ve ever had?? How is that the same thing??

As far as I can make out locked chats are a gift to pedophiles and cat fishers. I thought whatsapp was safe; & I think it was - until they added this feature. I do not now think it is safe for 13 year olds (and of course many children are on whatsapp at a much younger age). I think yet again tech companies are putting profits before children's safety. If you want to have private messaging for work (or other reason though I cant think what), there are surely plenty of means of communication other than whatsapp?