Ugh Facebook friend request from ex….

[Thedarknessssss]

I left ex 25 years ago after meeting my now husband. Ex and I had only been married 6 months but we’d been together 7 years (I know, I know) but in my defence I was young and should never have have stayed with him in the first place. No kids and a fairly amicable break up in the end.

I’ve bumped into him a few times since, we’ve had a brief chat and always been quite pleased that things have turned out well for one another - he remarried and had children and I married my husband and also now have adult children.

He’s now just sent me a FB friend request as we have about 6 mutual friends. Part of me doesn’t see the harm in it and he’ll see I’m very happily married still (I very much hope he is too) the other half wonders of his motive. I’m a typical people pleaser and hate offending people but I don’t want to hurt my husbands feelings either (that’s the most important thing to me).

WWYD? Is it weird to accept?

I wouldn’t ascribe any ulterior motive to it - you probably came up in his friend suggestions and, as he’d recently seen you, he clicked yes to send a request.

It is also entirely fine to only be FB friends with people who are actually friends.

This is why I’ve got every single one of my exes blocked on Facebook.

My ex dh left me for an ex he’d reconnected with through Facebook. We’d been married 5 years and just moved from London to Norfolk for our dream home, dream life. He added her on Facebook and a year later he left - told me he wasn’t in love with me and upped and left (leaving me and dd then aged 6) and disappeared never to be seen again. So I don’t like all this adding exes on Facebook. No good can come of it.

(I’m happily married again now, been married 15 years to “new” dh now).