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What is involved in the 2 year check?

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Mirone · 08/02/2025 15:38

My toddler will be having his two year check soon and I'm surprised to see it's at home as the last one was at the health centre.

We have been sent a questionnaire to fill in which is fine, but will he be expected to "perform" and do these things in front of her?

He tends to be a bit more predictable when it comes to socialising at a more neutral place which is why I'd have preferred to bring him to the centre.

When people come to visit us at home he can do anything from declaring them "friends" and insisting they engage in a tea party to shouting at them to "go home" and having a tantrum or anything in between.

I am a bit nervous that it feels like it's a "test" and he could end up just throwing himself on the floor screaming while she asks him to point at elephants or whatever.

I assume they just go by what you tell them mostly as surely a lot of two year olds wont perform on demand?

Do they bring things with them eg toys or will they ask them questions based on the toys they have at home? I ask because if I have all his toys out when she arrives and he's immersed in his tractor game he's very unlikely to stop to play with whatever she gives him.

However if I tidy them up and give him something else to do just before she comes then he'll probably be more likely to be interested in anything she brings. But I don't want her to think we don't have any toys for him!

know I'm probably overthinking it but I feel weirdly nervous? Like I'm going to be judged on his behaviour or that it'll be a bad time and she won't get to see all the things he can do.

I've moved but really didn't like the HV we saw when he was a baby and perhaps it's putting me off.

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Mielbee · 08/02/2025 19:42

Mine wasn't at home but the HV just took my word for everything as my daughter would only sit on my lap and wouldn't engage at all. She wouldn't even let herself be weighed and measured! Obviously different areas and different HVs might do different things but I would have thought they should be used to toddlers not being particularly co-operative!

ab03 · 08/02/2025 20:40

Our two year check was very relaxed, my daughter didn't have to demonstrate anything unless we said we weren't sure if she could do it. Even then, they are just looking for any signs that the children might have additional needs, not trying to catch you out or judge your parenting (unless they have safeguarding concerns - the one thing the HV did say to us was she saw some calpol within child's reach and we should keep it somewhere else, which is helpful to point out tbh!)

Mirone · 09/02/2025 09:41

Thank you both! It sounds a lot more relaxed than I was imagining. Blush I feel much better now!

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Olika · 09/02/2025 09:45

We just had ours in December and our HV came over to ours. We just chatted about any concerns we had, she gave us advice on whatever we brought up and went through our answers. Took DD's weight and that's it. I was stressed about this review in advance but I found it very chill.

Mumoftwo2022 · 09/02/2025 09:47

Don’t worry about it, my little lad had his a few weeks ago and was straight after his
nap so he literally was just cuddling me the whole time wouldn’t engage with the HV but I had completed the questionnaire and they will just go off what what you say the kid is like even if your kids like mine does nothing the whole time. They go off your concerns more than anything and if you are not worried about anything then they won’t be either.

Mumoftwo2022 · 09/02/2025 09:49

She also didn’t weigh or measure him
as she was like he doesn’t seem to be in the mood for that and no point distressing him. I was like that’s fine as again no concerns about his weight or height

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